
I don't think it's bad communication on either of their parts. It's fear. They truly love and need each other. As if it wasn't complicated enough to be in love with your best friend, your support system, they also have to deal with the fact that they are both men. Coming out is something that is hard, even for adults. And if their relationship as lovers fails, it could ruin a friendship that has taken a life time to built.
If he could hear the seme working out, bet the seme could hear what the uke was up to too . . .