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This was the comment that convinced me to read this. Thank you

tbh samee hahaha ╮(￣▽￣)╭

my honor <33

Chill bro, children can get crushes
U can suspect of being acespec the same way u can question being straight

I'm aroace and I didn't get crushes as a kid. It's part of it. Ya feel like somethings wrong with you cause you see others all jumping the love wagon and you can't relate.

Meanwhile my elementary school friends had boys they liked and even boyfriends

I literally didn't realize all my peers and friends had boyfriends and were all hooking up till I literally graduated the biggest Ace airhead istg ╥﹏╥

I knew I was asexual because I don't have any sexual desires towards people. I don't have sexual fantasies and I don't sexualize others. Even when a handsome man with a round ass like Captain America is in front of me and my friends are like "I would tap that" I don't understand their desires. I am human in my early 20s and I do have libido. There's just no one to direct my lust towards. No one I think about that way. Asexuals have low interest in sex so sex doesn't get them pumped up for shit. One of my friends is a lesbian asexual and, despite her love for her partner, she's just really not into having sex. She still does it every once in a while to satisfy her partner's needs tho.

I knew I was aromantic when I graduated high school because I never understood why people were dating in school. I didn't understand the purpose. Why date someone you're not even thinking about marrying. It was (and still is) illogical to me because I do not feel romantic love towards people. I've never been able to understand the whole sacrificing everything for love or wanting someone to be yours. I don't understand the whole drama people go when they breakup. I don't understand why people would keep on thinking of someone they already broke up with years ago. I don't think of kissing, hugging, or holding hands with a significant other. My brother was opening up to me and telling me the other days how hurt he was that he broke up with his girlfriend. I was trying to console him but deep down his whole dilemma felt foreign to me like "whats the big deal?" because I do not feel it and therefore do not understand it. I did dream of finding someone when I was little since all our media and society revolves around romantic love. I also struggled with it in the beginning cause I didn't understand that a person didn't need another half and that they could be complete by themselves. It wasn't easy specially since I've been battling loneliness my whole life but now I'm content with myself.

Due to my indifference to love, I've been asked several times by friends and my mother if I was a lesbian. No, I don't thirst after women either. Also, your parents will likely never accept it. I've told my mom several times about my reality without using the term "aroace" and she just believes that I'm a late bloomer, that love will find me and that it's not yet my time. That is complete bullshit. People who aren't aromantic have multiple crushes when growing up. We aint got that shit. Most we have are squishies which is when we reeallllyy wanna become friends with someone (no romantic or sexual fantasies attached).

Doesn't mean you can't have a family though. You can still marry out of convenience without romantic love. I personally wouldn't marry but I've always wanted to adopt some kids. You can artificially inseminate as well.

And I forgot to say that sexual identity is fluid so it can change with time depending on the person.

For sure. I think what's most important is to care for yourself and have an open mind always. If you care for yourself and don't shackle yourself with meaningless societal norms then regardless of what you end up discovering about yourself, you won't have to go through an existential crisis. Never think shit like "is there something wrong with me?". Just take your time to live your life and discover yourself.

Okay I relate to this 1000% it's almost like you wrote out my life story as well

eyyy *high fives*

yea he sexy but if he dares try tot ouch haebom fuck him