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like i found his character to be so cute until he’s stubborn and still wants to confess. and for what? to get rejected? and how do you think the person rejecting you is going to feel

I disagree because i think it’s a good thing to establish that boundary both ways. A lot of ppl who are more introverted do use this as a rejection exposure to normalize that it’s okay to be rejected and for the person receiving the confession their duty to establish their boundaries

imo that’s such a dumb excuse because there’s a million ways to get rejection exposure without putting someone on the spot in that way. confessing like that is actually SO disrespectful to the partner bc you’re essentially saying you dgaf about them and their relationship - it’s totally selfish, you’re only thinking of yourself and how the situation can benefit you without considering the couple’s feelings at all.

why is the person who is getting confessed to suddenly has a duty to fulfil when they didn’t even ask for it? that’s unfair to the person and their partner, especially when they’re not very close to the person who’s confessing. it shouldn’t be on the partners to be the one drawing the line or establishing boundaries. people outside their relationship should be the one to respect the fact that they’re in a relationship and create the boundaries themselves. even if the partners have issues with boundaries it’s for them to handle themselves as a couple, and not a third party.

and i still stand by my point that it’s selfish to confess to someone in a relationship because it would only benefit the one confessing and literally nobody else (unless the situation is complicated where person A is stuck in an abusive relationship and clearly likes person B, who then confesses but this situation is still a debatable topic)

getting confessed to when you’re in a relationship can bring so many problems.

it takes a lot of courage to confess yes but it also takes plenty of courage to reject someone. what if the person getting confessed to is softhearted and will torment themselves and feel bad because they have to reject? what if the person who confessed can’t take the rejection and continue pursuing or worse, talks shit about the person? what if misunderstandings arise between the couple because of this confession?

i just see more harm than good tbh. and not to mention the lack of respect.

That’s completely true BUT I think they should still be able to do so, but not everyone is gonna be the same, and just depends situationally and how the party handles it. It’s completely human, but I wouldn’t think it’s selfish, especially when the one confessing isn’t gonna be filled with hope. Idk I’m seeing it in a more objective perspective, but it does show that haesol doesn’t feel secure in their relationship compared to his boyfie. Perfectly secure partners wouldn’t care because of their security. Just a very human interaction and best thing do is is be transparent esp with your partner and both parties establishing their boundary which is distance

i mean i think it’s great when couples arent swayed by confessions to their partners and are able to establish boundaries through this situation, but unfortunately not everyone can be perfectly secure.

but yeah still personally to me it’s selfish thooo bc as much as the benefits shouldnt be the main point of a confession, i just dont see how it can be good thing for anyone other than the person who confessed even if they didnt have high hopes. i mean there’s always a reason to why they want to confess right? for example, they want to get it off their chest, feel better and overthink less. if not it’s a courageous step for them bc they managed to confess despite knowing they’ll be rejected and they can move on from their feelings. which is great don’t get me wrong. but in this situation you have to think about the partner of the person getting confessed to too.

idk it just seems unnecessary to me? not trying to offend anyone who took the courageous leap into confessing to anyone. i’m just saying personally i wouldnt confess to someone who’s in a relationship and also wouldnt want anyone confess to me if i was in a relationship.

i think there are many ways to learn to manage our own overflowing emotions and many other ways to learn to take rejection in a positive perspective.

and i think this situation has no right and wrong answer anyways. might even be a good topic to discuss with significant others actually.

From what I remember, I think they’re suppressors. so I think they suppress his power since he’s so strong.

oh i see! thanks! :>

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