Lizzie's Topics (344)

Don't blame hyesung for this he just need some space.

How long is it acceptable to refuse to as much as see your own child who's crying for you?

I think the difference is him not abandoning Byul, yes he did push them away but he's still there.

And if he does that for a prolonged period of time, he's inflicting that same trauma he went through to his own child. Even if he's physically present, if he's not truly there to pay attention to his child, it's pretty much the same thing.

Why are you blaming him? He was just traumatized by his own father and his mother left him, this is ALOT of stuff to deal with, what if he really spent time with byul but vented his frustration on his child? Wouldn't that also cause trauma for the byul? He needs space, don't you also need space when you're sad and dealing with a serious trauma? Yes he is an adult but that doesn't mean he can just go on without a break. He was just asking for a break, a moment to think about all this stuff that he's been through. And the things that he experienced, is just traumatising and depressing. How can he take all that in? He is not in the right state to show himself to byul at that moment. He was at a low point, how can you expect him to take care of Byul when he hasn't even solved his emotions yet?

I'm not blaming him, I'm saying that he needs to work through these issues to make sure he doesn't do the same thing to Byul his mom did to him. He already left once, for a long time, and now he's been hiding away for presumedly days if not weeks since they had time to track down his mom in this time. It's okay to take time to figure things out but when leaving your child behind and hiding away becomes a pattern like it has now, it's a clear indicator you need help cutting the cycle because this keeps happening.

I agree with everything else, but can I just say something about the MC?

(you probably wont read all of this but i just wanted to get my thoughts out about it
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He was with always together with that person since he was really young "his only friend and lover" to quote the manhwa, and after he was in a coma for 5 years only to come back to his BF (now Ex) dating someone else. Of course I too definitely got annoyed when MC kept clinging onto his Ex, like bro please it go, its not worth it.

However, since then nearly every single time he talks to someone they just talk about how his Ex searched for him for a long time, gave up his job just to do so and that being the only thing you heard about ever since he came out of his coma was that he (the Ex) had a vvvv hard time and yet even after all of that he still gave up when everyone else didn't.

The MC still had feelings for him cause they simply just dont go away after being comatose for 5 years and like you said, the Ex was half-assing the break up but still showed concern for the MC even though he "pushed" the MC out of his life.

So, I'm not saying that its wasnt annoying and immature for the MC to cling onto a dead relationship but i'm just saying that i understand why and that i want to give him a hug.

TL/DR Being in a coma for a very long time then waking up and finding out your (the MC's) bf was dating someone else, and people saying that he was really devastated when you "disappeared" and yet he still gave up on you anyway. You still like him but he "doesnt", but then he doesnt cut it off properly (like yo what the fuck, not cool man). MC deserves a hug.

Was it hard for him? Yes, of course. Does it give him the right to stalk and harass a person who's told him he wants to break up and not be in contact anymore? No. I'm sorry, but no. I get it, it sucks for him, it's really hard to let go, but when someone says they don't want you in their life anymore, you need to respect that and not harass them with texts, calls and stalking their home.

Im not saying that what he had been through gave him the right to harass his Ex, obviously, he should have let it go and not try to be in contact with him preferably just block the person and delete his number and respect the decision that had been made however hard it was.

He should have let go and erased his Ex from his life, cause its not healthy for him to cling on, but I know it would've been hard especially since nearly everyone was saying how much his Ex cared was having a very hard time coping with him being gone, only to be faced with him dating someone else. At that point, they properly should've laid everything out and dealt with it then so that the MC could've moved on faster.

Im saying I understand but not that I condone it. I'm not saying that he had a right to harass and stalk his Ex. The past is in the past and leave it like that.

I'm sorry if my previous reply came out like I was condoning his behaviour.

i dont think youve ever fallen in love, like that level of deep and sincere love. that's why you can't understand the characters' feelings

I'm currently in love, thanks. To me, real love isn't clinging on and trying to force someone to be mine when they don't want it. To me, real love is letting go when I'm asked to because the other person's happiness is more important to me than my own. The kind of "I HAVE TO have this other person to myself" kind of love is what I thought real love was when I was like fifteen. Now that I'm almost double that, I understand that there are more important things than me, me, me and my feelings.

But sure, insult me if that makes you feel better.

i wasnt trying to insult you, i apologize. it's just that, i think it's normal to want to cling on given that he just woke up after five years and he still loves the person so much. i know everyone is able to get over it, but i think that the uke's reaction is really normal for someone who's been in a long-time relationship and who's been suddenly surprised with breaking up the first day he met his loved one again.

sorry again if you felt like i insulted you. i think i used a poor choice of words

also, by normal, i mean, it's a normal reaction right after a sudden breakup