I think that his fears are understansable... think about it ... he probably has so much anxiety.
.. what can he do? In his way he is trying and doing his best
He his different from the sincere courageous college boy... they have different personalities and tempers
When you love someone i guess you cannot love only the good parts... it's a question of whether one can continue loving that person with all their defects
We cannot completly change for someone else
Idk ....
No. Having a different temper and personality is no excuse for Se Woong to invade Yoo Il's privacy, manipulate his emotions, and try to isolate him from his friends, just so that he can feel better about himself. He is placing his own insecurities and fears above Yoo Il's well being as a person. We can understand why he feels this way but it is wrong and unacceptable, period. Doing those things does not show his love for Yoo Il, it shows his need to control. In real life, these are huge red flags, that signal potential abuse *especially* when there is such a huge age gap, with one partner having far more financial resources than the other.
Everyone has flaws and weaknesses. Everyone wants to be loved. But when my "defects" seriously hurt or harm my partner, when it places my feelings above their well being in a significant way, I have to change that. A line has to be drawn. We cannot settle for "no one is perfect" and not work to be our best selves. If I cannot change that, I should not be in a relationship with someone else. None of us are owed a romantic relationship.
Yes that is true. The healthy rational part of my cognitive process in my brain totally agrees. But my emotional irrational part I think it might act similar to Se Woong. I am not saying it is right but this is how one might become over time due to different things they lived through... And to be honest change is so hard ... I'm sure not everyone can do it... And sometimes we aren't even concious of the consequences of our actions...
When I sense something is wrong in my relationship I emotionally guilt trip my partners to admit what is wrong, I dont just ask like a normal person.
I mean i would never do what he is doing but I kinda understand his point of view. I just hope he manages to get over his fears. I think they are happy in the end (thumbnails at lezhin). I also hope that his bf wont just brush it off, but that he will fight properly against stuff he doesnt like that old guy is doing.
Well, no one is completely rational lol. I have been in Se Woong's position and have made bad decisions because of fear, so I know what it feels like. I've done the phone checking thing (tho not so far as to put a tracer on :o). It's a miserable way to be in a relationship, even in my case where my suspicions were justified. It was something that happened because of the specific relationship I was in, so I found that in different circumstances I acted differently. Some changes are easier to make than others: it's not that difficult to refrain from spying on your partner, or trying to interfere with his friendships, if you love and respect them. It's not so much about "getting over" our insecurities--which is a huge thing to do--so much as finding different ways to cope with them.
If the person thinks they "can't" do it then they don't deserve to be in a relationship with anyone. The consequences of these kind of actions, IRL, are abusive, controlling relationships.
Story-wise, in all of this, we can't forget Yoo Il who has done nothing to deserve Se Woong's suspicions; who is a person who has his own fears and concerns; who is already facing challenges in his own life as a result of dating Se Woong, from a far far far more vulnerable position.
Poor hyung he liked Subin since the very beginning. He always treated him well .... i mean who could put up with Subin's moody and selfish first actions ....
I think hyung would treat him well and they could be happy...
But also Subin and hyunwoo love is one in a million and i also believe it is a love worth fighthing for and it would bring much more happiness and fullfilment to them then anything else... i mean loving someone for 5 years even though they don't love you back or questioning your sexuality and not being able to let go no matter what...
They probably would always live with regret in their hearts if they don't pursue this love....
Confused feelings as i like hyung the best he is mature and caring and awesome and he is wiling to love subin even if he knows he might get hurt... hope he will find someone who will deserve him
He is so adorable while crying
He can be so cool at times but nothing beats his crying face
This manga makes me think at the song Burning desire
I want a passionate love in my life like that too
I feel like o lived in vain not experiencing that at least once in life...
So relatable ╥﹏╥
Ok so please enlighten me..
The seme didn't actually fell in love with the uke? Then why was he trying so hard to make Shinobu fall for him and was so mad about Kenji?
So when Shinobu finally confessed his love Kou acted like he didn't even know him Wtf
Did Kou actually cheat on Shinobu ? I can"t belive...
Way to go Shinobu. I like that he values himself enough and realises what a dick Kou is and moves on does things for his benefit.
It was just a game for Kou. To get the uke everyone wanted even though he was hesitant.
This was pretty good actually - surprising so to say. Because the author made us feel like it's only the uke who has >still< to fall in love.
Now that the seme is also falling in love we can get a real relationship. If Uke-kun still wants that. He has really grown up. I'm proud of him (๑•ㅂ•)و✧
Yes that is true. This manga is quite refreshing
Awesome way to go. I wish the chapters were longer...
The cover tho
I thought for sure this was like a reverse universe where Eungho was the proffesor and it portrayed like a different reality
Me too I’m weAK, i was like “well this is different, I like it”