
It’s not meant for empathy I think, it’s prolly trying to explain his behavior as cycle of violence is a pretty solid sociological study. People who grow up in violence end up growing up to become violent themselves or end up in situations with violent people cuz that’s what they know, kindness to them is like a mirage, inauthentic and not as easy to trust so they become messed up individuals. Although some people break out of this cycle, it’s tough to do it when you aren’t aware of it
Usually even bad people reflect and they think they’ll change things for good until IMPULSE, they never learnt to control it, that’s what made things go bad and that’s what keep them from doing better, letting him go is the best outcome regardless of the romantic revelation
They need to heal on their own separately. Being tangled together will lead to a toxic relationship.