Dem Feler's Topics (915)

Honestly I'm not looking for a perfect man....if anything I want someone who is reasonable and reliable

True, I'm looking for a Yuuya though hahaha

I can sort of read gang rape but not when I am emotionally invested in the character

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I'm afraid that Korean society has quite a bad track record for gender equality. Single mothers/ child birth out of wedlock are are not on the whole approved. Unfortunately. Of course, things are overall changing, but the effect is not immediate.

I see. But I mean, would a concerned mother likely go to a classroom and manhandle a teacher due to rumours of pregnancy out of wedlock?

It’s not just in Korea where gender inequality exists, but myriads of countries have a sexist way of doing things. Women are held to such high standards and they are ostracized for doing anything deemed as unacceptable! It’s really ridiculous, but some societies are still like that! (╬￣皿￣)

I'm so sorry but it is not an exaggeration.. single mothers or getting knocked up is to be known as something shameful that your own family might abandon you in Kr. Society judgment is indeed that bad in Korea. Even groupthink is a thing- if you dont follow the trend, you can get outcasted and ostracised

Tbh I was also curious to see if this part is actually realistic or exaggerated for drama? I to don't know a lot about the Korean culture but this particular issue reminds me of a similar situation played out in a Japanese drama called "you taught me all the precious things " where the school finds out the fl teacher is pregnant. she tried to hide it cuz her bf who's a ml teacher at the same school broke up and thus she's unwed and will be a single mom but gets caught it turns into this whole thing and the ex couple are in trouble ultimately bcuz they're not married and aren't planning to anymore, that was a whole other drama and honestly I don't blame the girl for calling off the engagement.

I see. Thanks for explaining this to me all of you guys. To share though, in my country (Philippines), the most you can get is probably rumours and judgemental looks, but probably not some mother who will go to a classrom and do what this mother did here. Teachers in our country are usually held in good respect, unless they are into some sort of drugs, crime, or clear physical abusive tendencies on the children.

I live in Western Europe and most of the time was never even aware whether the teachers had a partner or not. If a female teacher were to become pregnant there would be nothing at all to say on the part of the students... It would be her own private business. ╮(￣▽￣)╭

Wow that's ideal, much envious of your situation. It would be nice to have a nonjudgemental society.

People will judge regardless.. its just a matter of how much and what they will react like

That's true

I disagree, people will not necessarily judge. I would not have thought anything of a teacher getting pregnant, nor would I now... It is a time and age when women can choose to have children without having a partner and simply going through artificial insemination. There are situations, where some societies have moved beyond making a big deal out of something... Societies at large that is, there will always be exceptions when talking about populations of millions of people.

No society is nonjudgemental - that is my point. It doesn't have to be on the specifics of singlehood pregnancy etc, everyone innately have something that they judge about. You claim that you don't 'judge' about a teacher getting pregnant, but that statement itself was already a judgement. It was just a more positive judgement as opposed to a negative one. For instance, you can judge that shes a strong lady for she plans to raise the baby alone - that shows resilience and determination and is clearly not an issue as you see no problem with it. Basically, thats a formed opinion about that individual that you have based on the culture and perceptions that you have.

Hope you get where I am coming from.
Cheers.

I get it, but you can also just not care too much... Which is also a judgement, but that is besides the point, I think. I meant to say that it was neither her nor there for me, whether my teachers become parents - so while you hear the information, it has no strong impact. Think big cities, where people have more extravagant fashion choices - i.e. metro in NY, nobody cares that there are all people dressed differently. That is a kind of freedom. If you dress in a particular, extravagant way (just an example), most people will not go home and tell their whole family. Of course your perception and mentality are in-formed by upbringing, local and global culture... It is something you have to cultivate as a society - allowing people to do as they please in all kinds of areas of life, that do not concern/ infringe on the lives of other people. Call it anonymity of a big city, if you will...

Same I was waiting for something to happen ╥﹏╥

Thank goodness im not the only one wondering

Hahha we cannot be satisfied with just some licking xD

What I thought when I saw it, so adorable (≧∀≦)

LMAO I can’t with these toothless comments

Yaahhh and ... hiccup is like cale, they are both considered trash/at the bottom of soceity at first