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he gets together with jennete in the novel I believe, they would make a cute couple

That sickness is called On or Offisim. I have that sickness too.

Damn ur spot on

I hate that you’re right

You summed it up correctly!! Thank you!

Sorry to disappoint you but in that community people know before the start of the relationship how far they can go and in case they have the safeword I know MD seem to act like a dick here but in fact if Chanwoo was not dumb he would have said the safe word when needed.
Sub need to know that they can use safeword in every situation necessary and MD isn't new to this so won't take it badly so if it's happens in a foreplay it was most of the time it was on their ok to do list.
Consent of explicit consent doesn't apply like in every vanilla relationship, you can do research if you want.
For me as a Dom MD acted like it and subs takes fault when they are not honest their feelings or with their safeword it exist use it.
Lot of people here are shook because of MD but really just do research on Dom/Sub community and you'll understand.

What md did was basically bondage and bdsm tho? Like chanwoo agreed to be in that relationship, and if chanwoo hated the slapping and choking that much he would have used the safe word. Cause that would immediately stop it

And let’s not forget that the slapping etc was part of the BDSM play and that he could just have used the safe word if he felt in danger

Nice to hear some opinions from the people who actually know the issue not just from comics.

Yeah, people tend to missunderstand and try to romanticize BDSM a lot. Like, it is a place for people who enjoy being dominated or who want to dominate in many kinds of 'insenteties'. So because humans cannot read minds, a dom has to be full on and read the reactions of the sub. A human can be erect and bodily feel pleasure, even when they are super against it in their head. So that is why there is a safe word agreed upon beforehand as well as things like don'ts. So the dom will know what he is allowed to do to you and then during the play will be reassured, that you WILL TELL HIM, when you want to stop, because he crossed some boundaries. It is your responsibility as a sub to be honest, for yourself and for the dom. So yeah, no matter what story is behind a session, but if a session starts, then the rules to it are active as well and that is a different 'space' then a vanilla one with your beloved boyfriend or what. so a sub should not think about stuff like 'ah but he will hate me for it or blah' they should be SUBMISSIVE and listen to the doms command to say the safeword, when they want to stop. yeah so...thats all. I am not personally experienced in BDSM, but this is just something you should know before you read a story about it and then go as far as to talk about such stuff. and get these super weirdo ideas about it...

I honestly am not involved at all in the BDSM community, but in this situation, maybe even if he wanted to say the safe word, he couldn’t? Their relationship is at a critical point, things are not going well. MD is already angry at Chanwoo, so maybe Chanwoo unconssciously thought that if he didn’t listen to everything MD said their relationship would be over for good?
And Chanwoo was clearly uncomfortable through the whole play. If he was actually responsible, MD would have asked him if he was actually ok and if he wanted to continue.
But then again, this is all my interpretation, I don’t know anything about Dom/Sub relationships. But I think that one of the most important things is trust and respect, and I felt a lack of both in these interactions.
Let it me noted that I’m not trying to be disrespectful or rude and want a calm debate. i’m always open to new ideas and opinions :)

Then it will sound bad for people who are not part of this community but the sub is to blame here. You can't look to their relationship from your normal vanilla couple relationship. If MD started the threesome it was on their ok to do list and it's the sub role to stop if he feels bad or don't like it etc.
Chanwoo is the one who brought backstabbing bitch to MD in the first place and came back to MD strongly believing that their relationship wouldn't change even after the confession. And he was still attach to the idea of MD and him still being a thing even after MD giving him a lot of space.
You need to remember that being a Sub is to be submissive, so no during a play as a Dom you don't have to worry if your sub is okay mostly when he never said the safeword, that's why it exist. It's only after the play that the dom take care of the well being of the sub so he isn't overwell by the foreplay they just did.
Again the idea of respect change from a person to an other, as someone in the community sure, MD was petty, knowing Chanwoo wasn't 100% on board but he didn't broke any rules, a dom push his sub, if the sub can't take it or don't want to do it then he can say the safeword without consequences on their relationship and as you saw MD immediately stop the foreplay and took care of Chanwoo.

Hope you have a better understanding of this, ask if you have more questions.

It's because of popular movies about that (I don't remember the name) but it made people believe in a more romanticize version of BDSM when this is so much deeper than that.
People freaks out on a Dom/Sub relationship so imagine if their relation was Master/Slave gosh people would have made the comic cancel. XD

nope. this is a missunderstanding. a sub should use a safeword, no matter what is going on outside of a session. no matter what. if the sub uses it and the dom gets angry about it later on, then the dom is shit and should be discarded. that is all. inside a dom/sub relation there is no room for stuff like that....if they are there, then you know it is a dysfuntional dom/sub relationship

Then isn’t this maybe the case here? Maybe the problem is that tgey didn’t build enough rapport for Chanwoo to be absolutely comfident to use the safeword?

I see, thank you. I guess it really is hard to understand if you’re not directly part of that world, but this case just makes me wonder if MD really comforted Chanwoo because he said the safeword and was obviously distraught, or because he apologized and that’s what MD wanted all along. Again, I’m just talking about this particular case.

no, i think the problem here is chanwoo. even though md did plan this session with an ulterior motive, but no matter what, a dom can do what they want within the subs boundaries during a session as long as they don't use the safeword. Chanwoo clearly did not understand that and he was the one who was apparently trying to play games with his dom. and ultimately i mean...a dom can also punish their sub. so this is actually also md punishing his sub during the setting of a session. chanwoo needs to do some self reflecting...may be a dom/sub relationship is not what he needs here and he needs to work on his sense of responsibility for himself and his life and all...

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Lmao exactly
Some people be salty tho