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Where was the racism? Are you talking about the last couple? The woman was drawn in the Gyaru style.

Well actually I think it was a man....

┗( T﹏T )┛ I fooled!

* was fooled

AHAHA "I fooled" had me ROLLING

Did u just say "China or whatever" then proceed to talk abt casual racism-

Yeah, he did. HAHAHAHAH lmf

I bet 2 pennies it's the monk
all bets in (๑•ㅂ•)و✧

agree for hwi part and as for mr. Han... iM SORRY I SIMP EVEN HARDER

same ヾ(TT▽TT)

Lol so true. You need some freaking jealousy for the egoistic seme's to get shit.

oops. meant to upvote

maybe he's inexperienced in gay relationship(?) idk

He’s been having sex since middle school. He’d be around 12-15 in Japan so I take it’s not the easiest decision when you get attached (sexually or otherwise) to an adult who basically groomed you since you were young. If anything, I’d say he’s a victim that deserves sympathy. Maybe he doesn’t know how to be in a normal relationship because of what happened to him. I’m betting his feelings for Kanata IS real but he doesn’t know what to do. You might be looking at this as a perfectly sound individual and not as a man who had a sexually relationship with an adult since he was young. I can’t tell you to not dislike a character, but give him some sympathy.

If he doesn't know how to function in a normal relationship, he shouldn't be seeking one out. He needs therapy, and lots of it. Even if he wasn't looking for a relationship, he still needs a shit ton of therapy, because being groomed causes lasting effects (aka probs why Akira refers to himself as dirty). This man don't need love, he needs a team of psychologists.

Psychologist and psychiatrist doesn't cure people, they can only help easing the symptoms and give advice. Support and love from people around the patient is way more important than both of them, because the problem is with their mind and heart. No medicine or therapy could work if they're still trapped within themselves. If people who are important and loved by the patient can't even lead them out, how can a bunch of unknown people do that? Also, sometimes even finding a compatible psychologist/psychiatrist is a journey on itself. So yes, love is important for case like this, even more than psychologist. Then what's wrong with him searching for love? Is people with mental problem shouldn't love?

‘If people who love and support you can’t help you out, then what can a stranger do’
Sis you have a severe misunderstanding of what a therapist or someone who works in the mental health does. The entire POINT is to have someone specially trained and removed from the situation that can help you understand why you have defense mechanisms (like having unhealthy sexual relationships with older men) and then help you change your way of thinking via CBT.

That’s like saying if someone was depressed, why aren’t they fucking happy when they have their family around them. Or when someone has PTSD, why they aren’t okay when they have friends around them. Frankly, it’s problematic that you have this rose colored glasses that love can fix everything. If it did, we wouldn't have domestic abuse of cheating, where people stay with those who abuse them physically, mentally, or emotionally due to ‘love’

I’m saying that people who don’t know what a healthy relationship is like and do toxic things and have toxic behaviors, shouldn’t drag other people along with them. I don’t think you’ve ever dated, because loving someone doesn’t fix what’s wrong with them. They’re just going to drag you on mentally exhausting journey, where they release their toxic behaviors on you or keep repeating them and they end up either hurting you or needing professional help anyways.

I never said love can fix everything, I just said that love still plays an important part in curing someone with mental health problem, romantic or not, depending on their problems. It's good to have professionals helping them of course,and they should, so they would know what to do. But they can't be healed with just professional help without people around them. I've seen cases where going to psychologist doesn't help, sometimes it even gets worse, it's all really up to the patient themselves. And whether love, romantic or not, can help them, it's up to them too. Also, bad behavior and habit should be differentiated from people with mental problems. Abusive tendencies and cheating habit are mostly not caused by mental problems, it's in their personality.

The character in this manga isn't even toxic or abusive, he just don't know what to do with his feelings, but he's in the process of learning. He realizes his mistake and repents. He never intentionally wants to hurt the other, he doesn't even cheat or inclined to it, just confused. And if it's real life, whether Kanata wants to help him and be with him or not, it's up to him, not for us to judge.

Meowster:
Agree with you to 1000%.