Ira's Topics (208)

Cz u r in yahwi team?? ┗( T﹏T )┛

well it just made me feel very uncomfortable the fact cain saw the redness from their play idk why,,, im not in a specific team ngl

13 is legal age in Japan so mate

I totally get what you mean, it makes me uncomfy too. the age of consent may be low in Japan but it still doesn’t make this right.

yeah, here it's 16 but as i said, i dont know why, usually these things don't bother me a lot. Maybe it's because i prefer mature relationships and I'm really liking this manga.

exactly...

he just feels like an asshole. and sus even with that back story.

uh! alright thak youuu

He does so many things like telling param his dad past so he can have sex with him and sexually assaulted him during work.

not me personally but in simple terms, Han was aware of the feelings that Param had for him. He knew the effect he had on him, and with his (Han) actions, put Param in many difficult situations (making him flustered at the office, etc).

To be honest, we the readers, all know that if Han was not “flirting” with Param, Hwi and Param would have been together by now.

If my memory serves me right, Han only got more proactive with Param after finding out that Hwi was in the situation.

Same here with me, I don’t really see anyone as bad. Like I don’t really get the hate for Param, he hasn’t cheated, and yes although his actions may hurt Hwi in the future, he doesn’t owe him anything. His (Hwi) feelings are his alone, and whether Param decides to reciprocate them, is up to him.

They’re all adults, and Hwi should have known what he was getting into, getting involved with Param who has a crush on Han. Han, what happens to him was sad, and how he treated other men before Param wasn’t right. Param, I have no idea why he didn’t just go to a doctor for his sensitivity.

han from the start kinda played with param feelings knowing that he had a crush on him, he kissed him without consent while he was drunk, then harassed him at work. Also he almost chocked his ex under a pillow just because he didn’t want to see his face, then treated him like shit. Also in the last chapters he was really pushy with param, he basically forced himself onto him despite param rejecting and pushing him away, he manipulated param already confused state of mind with his backstory to guiltrip him into giving him a chance. He was really too much.
Also, personal opinion, han “casually” started to actively pursue param the right moment hwi exposed his intentions with param. Some thinks han feelings for param are genuine but tbh if u have genuine feelings for someone and respect them (like han supposed to feel for param) I doubt u would pressure and corner them, leading them to the verge just to gain what u want like he did in the last chapter, that’s just toxic and gross.
Hope I explained it properly sorry for the long reply

uh oh i understand thank you!

Thank for your effort on the answer! thank you, i understand
I literally didn't notice Mr. Han getting more interested in Param after he started seeing Hwi, i mean yes, but i see it like he just decided it was time to let param know he had feelings for him too cause he didn't want to just let Param go...
but maybe i'm just naive

and YES there are doctors for that-

Thank you so much for your detailed explanation, yeah i understand what you're saying, it makes sense.
Idk im just believing mr. Han's true feelings towards Param, everyone makes mistake and I see how Mr. han has been traumatized in the past, he is scared and he doesn't understand well how to behave. I think that after what he has experienced with romantic relationships he didn't want lo lose Param but at the same time he was scared to love and to be vulnerable again, so he made mistakes like being sexually pushy (cause he is insecure, he doesn't want to lose control, and that's how he usually make sure to have it), but Mr. Han opened up to param and explained his past. Idk maybe im just naive to believe him.

I understand he behaved wrong, i dont excuse him, but i can understand he may be trying to handle this situation the best he can now

I understand his past experience wasn’t the best, unfortunately it’s nothing uncommon to be cheated on, but when he said “if I didn’t want to be hurt, I had to be the one who hurts everyone else” it felt just over the top, I understand the bad experience but that’s not an excuse for your actions, especially considering the time passed. Such a mindset is extremely toxic.
Also I feel he forced his story on param in the worst moment possible, I would have understand if it happened in a different more relaxed moment, but param was already struggling with his emotions and han pushing his own emotions on him just to keep him there in such a tensed moment was just no.
I’m always very emphatic with characters but I can’t really vibe with han, there were too many red flags already and I still didn’t get to see a single good side of him except for his working facade. He had his chance to be at least respectful with param, but he handled the situation in the worst way possible, so even if he will improve in future it will be really hard for me to forget all the shit he did until now :/

yeah i see your point of you, thank you again for answering!