Theylove_RINA's Questions (27)

No, a label doesn’t define your whole being—but in a world that constantly tries to generalize or erase difference, labels give people the power to assert who they are on their own terms. Labels are important, for example if you’re trans and going on a date, being upfront about your identity allows the other person to make informed choices and ensures that any connection is built on authenticity, not assumptions.

im gonna copy ur yap session word for word and submit this as my application to yale cuz ur writing is fire !?!?!

Even the centipede part?

as someone who doesn't use labels, I think, respectfully, you should try getting to know people and let them get to know you.

it adds a uniqueness to it

honestly, i feel like some ppl are just freaks with too much time on their hands and no hobbies. like you’re telling me you be beating it multiple times a day but can’t take a walk around the neighborhood?

it baffles me that there's people who disagree with this </3

sorry i disliked by mistake! but this is so true, like i also enjoy some bls that contain sa (tho i am ashamed of it )but when people go out of their way to defend it, its just crazy, just accept its SA and u like it . no need to do all drama of its just fiction or it was a mistake..

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last week i saw a comment under ltit that "even tho the ml raped mc sometimes moving on is forgiving them " brooo

Just want to let you know, I love you for living in your truth and not acting like it's normal to like SA!!

exactly. Its so normalized its insane. Storys like my guildmate nextdoor and nerd project are doing well and they dont even have SA (mgmn only has smut by the end of the story too lololol) so I dont get why its still so normalised. Just admit you cant write conflict or a toxic character without making them a rapist. Theres a lot of stories written like this (profundis and waterside night for example..) craziest part? the story would've been good if there wasnt an entire season about rape.

Look at lost in the clouds for example, both mcs are fucked up and have mental problems and the author KNOWS how to write conflict. Both characters are interesting and complex, the storyline is a masterpiece—though quite stressful and toxic.

It isnt that hard to NOT make a fucked up character be a rapist like. ??

I'm happy that you broke up with him and if he does something to himself, it's because he's a manipulative fool and not because of you. You'll find someone normal-ish soon dw

That's not healthy! He's way too dependant on you and that's really good that you broke up because your s/o's mental health is not your responsibility to handle, it's theirs. He needs help like therapist help, seriously congrats to you for being able to do that because I was in a similar situation like you and it's super draining if you had went on, it's not bad to care or anything at all but it's bad for them to rely on you way too much. I'm sorry u went through that :(

Exactly. It will only either you die or I die situation. I am insane.

this entire rant smells like victim blaming

Brother.... I'm just saying I could never, much less the average American student could be a victim to wtv the fuck Korean bullying is....

"my eyes turn red when im angry" ahh rant

billy badass ahh timmy tough knuckle dangerous dan ahh fearless frank ahh angry anthony ahh

to be fair, most of the korean bullying portrayed in shows or kdramas arent that accurate, well i get what you mean but if they arent even accurate and doesnt actually represent real life korean school bullying then theres no point
also, one of the main reasons why korean bullies are able to get away with bullying is because of the tough background and connections they have with the school, ik ur post maily talks about physical bully then self defense but what makes you think you can fight them off as simple as that? Korean schools especially prestigious ones are infamous for their corruption, even if you have a loving parents teachers and friends who trust you what makes you think you can fight off your bullies who are much richer than you?
the thing is, the more you avoid it, the more they would want to pick up on you no matter what ways, and another thing is, if youre the same background and rich level as them, the bullies wouldnt even want or bother to pick up on you, they are not that stupid at finding their own victims

How'd you know my middle names??? HOLY SHITTT

I started the rant off stating I'm only referencing how it's portrayed in tv, not if it's accurate.

That’s like saying you can’t trust a child because their dad was a murder and because they’re related. You can’t hate present people for what the people did in the past, they simply weren’t there. Most crime are committed by POC btw..

it's ragebait just ignore it. :P

Ofc I know that, but you want to know why? Because they put us in situations and conditions where we can't be better than our surroundings or even afford to. And you can't compare racism to just not trusting someone

erm... okay??? Americans invented KFC and Netflix, those are like the equivalent of gunpowder from China. How about we hate on French people instead!

Understandable, love that.

Yall be hating on Chinese, Indians, Americans etc - when the only people to hate are the French. Fuck them all, fuck their language, racist fucks! I hate them! DNI if you're french!

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I agree. I sometimes listen to indian music. That don't really mean nothing like literally nothing. It's just that the beat in them is so freaking catchy, and trynna sing em even tho some of the words in there aren't gibberish( because I don't speak the language) I will hit all the lyrics, and I don't even care, but then motherfucher be like "What the fuck do you understand in this?" or hit me with some shi like "this song is trash" And I be like "your mother" because if they can listen to baby shark, as their fun music then I can listen to Indian stuff.


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16 year old and 18 year old are basically the same age... You people are so online that you forget what's the real issue and what's not. A 20-year-old dating a 40-year-old is weird for sure, but if another party is 30 and another one is 50, it's not that weird at all. Let adults do what they want.

ty for this, i was literally js thinking abt it yesterday. my best friend js turned 19 & is dating a guy who’s pushing 30. ive tried telling her how weird that is, but she brushes it off like she’s suddenly so mature & grown js cus she graduated high school. like… girl, u js got out of high school. he’s nearly a decade older than you. ur both in completely diff stages of life. she won’t listen to me anymore, so ive kinda stopped caring, but it still bugs me.

i don’t have an issue w age gaps in fiction as long as everything is legal & consensual. but even then, it’s not always abt the age gap itself, it’s abt when the people involved met & how long one of them has known the other. if the older person knew the younger one before they turned 18? that’s when it crosses into something rlly uncomfortable for me. y would u want to date someone u basically watched grow up? that’s not romantic, it’s creepy.

in general, i find it strange when someone over the age of, say, 24, dates someone who’s 18 or 19. sure, it’s legal, but the maturity & life experience gap is massive. 18 & 19 literally still have teen in the number. most ppl that age r either still in high school or just recently graduated.

LMAO This topic is just above someone asking for an age gap (professor X student) recommendations xD

Anyway for age gap I don't mind some of them in fiction since I don't really bother knowing their age (since some of the art style make them look like the same age) but if they said their age in the story like a 20+ years apart that makes me weird reading it

In irl I don't mind if a 23 year old date a 30 year old but if it's 19-22 that's a NO they just come of age so they're still a minor. And there's someone who made a topic about a highschool and college dating but they're only 1-2(?) year apart and for me that's alright as long as they have their priority right

Ummm 16 and 18 are literally basically not the same age - I wouldn't necessarily say that's it's not not weird, I think there's loads of 16 and 18 year old who are dating. Personally when I was 18, I couldn't imagine dating someone who's 16 (or literally anyone younger)

Why are you writing it here?? It's not a question. (⊙…⊙ )

I'm 18, and I won't date anyone younger than me, either. (Actually, I won't date anyone) But there are many other more concerning things like a 19-year-old dating 13 or something like that. 2 year age gap between two minors is acceptable. (It shouldn't be more than that and 18 is just barely an adult)

As long as they are legally adults and consensually in a relationship. Then I don't give a f*ck. It's their life and their choices. If I find any red flags in their relationship. I can only advise them. Then it's up to them.

Woah now, you're acting like I said they need to be put in jail or something and to be honest with you, 30 and 50 is pretty weird. They're in completely different stages of life but it's not like my opinions are really changing everything

Srry about ur friend, that's kinda exactly why I think age gaps are so weird bc it's clear that someone isn't mature enough just bc their an adult, it's levels to this shit

This is also an valid point I could've made

it doesn’t work like that. eds are a mental problem, so yes we KNOW we’re all gonna die, duh. but it’s more than that, like you can’t just think oh i’m hungry i’m gonna eat a pizza, bc your brain will refuse to let you eat.
for instance, when i was deep in my ed i didn’t even feel hungry anymore and would go on with one small meal per day. it was all i could think of, food food and food.

ppl who have an ed love food, its a hate love relationship. so saying « just eat what you want » when our society is judging us for being fat or not skinny enough is not smth you should say. if you didn’t experience anything of that sorts, why say that

Ion think you understand mental illness. Amen

I'm not talking about ed's, I'm talking about regular people that happen to be on a diet because the feel the need to loose weight and fit in with societies standards.

Also, you don't know what I've experienced. I'm saying what I'm saying because of what I've been through, I'm just saying how I think about the infatuation everyone has with fitting in with these standards now a days.

and it’s still the same thing, you can’t just say « eat » to someone who’s struggling with body image, if someone’s starving, it’s most likely an ed

then don’t say just eat how can you even dare to say something like that if you’ve experienced an ed or struggling with food in general ? yes it is infuriating but you can’t do anything about it. spreading body positivity will help but not cure the whole problem. these standards always have been there, it’s not a nowadays thing

"just because you're not eating burgers anymore doesn't mean you're going to loose weight, you have to actually workout too." umm no actually, losing weight depends primarily on ur diet. workouts are good for u generally, but even if u don't exercise and take care of ur calories in & calories out ratio, you're definitely gonna lose weight.

For me, I get teens do that shit. But it’s just weird that most of the time it’s an adult writing it very smuttily yk? Makes you think about what the author thinks while writing it.

It’s child pornography. The issue isn’t that minors don’t have sex, it’s that it’s an artistic depiction of minors having sex. It’s especially bad if there’s an age gap. Also all and any depictions fictional are not of underage characters having sex is still considered child pornography.

The issue was never about teenagers having sex, it’s about creating content of teenagers having sex that adults then read. Get it?

Also I feel like if I was one of those adult authors attempting to write teen smut I’d give up by the 3rd sentence and look out the window wondering what the hell I’m doing with my life.

It also romanticizes the idea of sex to minors which isn’t a good thing. We already have enough of an issue that “teenagers should be having sex and you’re lame if you’re not” stigma (at least in America) and people end up getting hurt, pregnant, or regretting their decision. We should be able to practice safe sex in environments that are comfortable, and those mangas rarely push that like… ever. I mean shidoku shinaide, the uke was literally forced to have sex with the seme for the first volume.

its the fact that grown ass adults sit down and draw/write about minors. they imagine how they would look like doing it, and then translate it onto paper, which is pretty weird. + it doesnt sit right with me that there are so many adults that consume such media. i litr graduated from hs last year but im lowkey already weirded out if i see any smut in stories set in hs/when the characters are minors

teens are hormonal… its stupid to think its not plausible for teens to be engaging in sexual activities. even if others are against it does not change the fact that teens are involving with them w such conducts. also not relevant but this made me think of a tweet where someone was mad at op for making drunk headcanons for minors (context, 16-18 something) and like??

its just funny how people cant comprehend that minors can infact drink. And have sex. Like teens, seriously. That world itself can be a trigger.

Wait we’re the same age? Σ( ￣□￣||) this whole time I thought I was married to a milf.

hate to break it to you but... drawing fictional minors having sex is not csam. if they were, those authors would've been arrested by now. just like how rape is depicted in fiction is not a crime, fictional minor characters having sex is not csam. it sets a dangerous precedent to reduce csam to this. it dilutes the focus on the real life harm of csam. you know why law enforcement have discouraged reporting fiction as csam? it's because it can overwhelm law enforcement by encouraging the pursuit of non-harmful, fictional content rather than real abuse cases.

it's valid to find certain fictional depictions disturbing or offensive but please please please stop labeling them as csam.

Now this, I understand

I'm not talking about forced sex between minors, I'm talking about minors in relationships in fictional works going at it. But still I understand what you're trying to say, and I understand it. But as much as I hate to say it, it isn't real.

Yes the idea of an adult drawing Minors having sex is weird if you think about it too long but that is exactly why sometimes, you just got to put down the book and live your life better than the author is.

Understandable but as weird as it is, there literally isn't much we as readers can really do about it otherwise than just put the book down and live a better life than the author.

First of all, I'm not talking about age gaps. I am referring to two minors being in a relationship and getting freaky. Which yes, I see where you're coming from saying it's child porn, but it's not.

Like someone already said to you, if it was this shit would not be produced as much as it is now. Sure it's weird, but that's were we as readers just have to put the book down and life a life better than the author.

what the fuck i thought u were the milf in the rs... no way we're teen wives </3

correct me if im wrong but isnt lolicon/shotacon & the likes classified as csam in quite a few countries? iirc an author in australia was even arrested for writing about something involving a child

oh hold on i dont mean ages 16-18 obv

yeah im pretty sure this is true, also isnt there some sort of law in korea that bans drawing minors having sex? thats why in yaoi manhwas set in hs, they always age them up to be 20 so they can draw them fucking legally. its also why most hs bl manhwas are shounen ai too. i guarantee if it wasnt for laws like that those pervs would 100% draw them fucking all day every day. also for the australian author case, her book involved flashbacks of the love interest having sexual thoughts about the mc when MC WAS 3 YEARS OLD and he was like 30 years older than her.

i think this was fate ngl

oof this statement is a lot to unpack. i get where you're coming from. my take on it tho is that writers often create stories about experiences they have (they, too, were teens once) or never lived or perspectives they don’t hold. fiction allows people to explore messy and morally complex ideas without real world harm. i'd like to think that authors who like to write crime or gore don't secretly want to murder someone haha

our own biases or cultural taboos can shape how we see something. in asia, teen sex is seen as taboo which is why you might see it a lot more from asian authors because fiction is a safe space to write about it. the more taboo it is, the more dramatic it is, the more "rebellious" it feels. (this is also the reason why there is a booming industry of BL in asia). your discomfort isn’t wrong but if you automatically assume that any adult who writes about teen sexuality is being perverse or suspicious, that might be an oversimplification.

yeah loli and shota content is a whole different subject matter but i do think that there are countries that ban sexual loli and shota content

Dang reading this thread makes me feel like an old hag I'm gonna cry in a corner, but yes I agree it's very weird.

It’s still child pornography, it’s depicting child pornography, it doesn’t matter if the characters are real, it literally is a depiction of a teenager ducking another teenager, regardless of their existence. There’s no “oh well it’s not quite that so it’s fine.” Like actually wtf. I’m not gonna sit here and claim you’re a pedo or anything, but let’s just set the record straight.

We cannot and should not give a pass to ANY FORM of child porn, if they’re under 18, fictional or not, and are doing freaky things, it’s child porn. Cause none of that should be allowed.

And I’ll explain why too. Adult content, porn for example, is illegal for children to view, you can look it up. So the people these depictions for legally cannot be minors. Therefore, the viewer base is adults. Adults reading about teenagers having sex. That’s not okay, that will never be okay.

I respect stories like cherry blossoms in winter, for not showing any depictions of their characters getting sexual until college, the story grew with its audience. I am also not shaming anyone for liking sexual content either, people read smut allll the time.

If you’re actively seeking out high school smut as an adult, or anything of the sort, you’re ill. There is something wrong with you. Adults have no reason to read that shit, ever.

yup the only thing stopping those degenerates also literally what the fuck is up with that author like damn... what must go through ones mind to even think of coming up with that