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Right, so communicate with him about his anxieties. Are you feeling okay? Tell me how you're feeling? What's bothering you? Etc. Inform him he is in a safe environment. It will be his decisions to come out or not after that, but hiding and isolating him to protect him? How's that supposed to help ease him....ever? The logic is not quite there if you're looking at it from a healthy relationship perspective.

Are you even hearing yourself?? He already knows that he's in a safe environment and ml already ensured that still he's not willing to come out of the closet... When did ml isolate him?? He's literally throwing house warming parties inviting mc's friends. And he's just worried that the friend might say something that will put undue pressure on mc to come out or be outted by his friend.. and that's why he talked to minsu to clear it out.. mc is super conscious of being gay and he doesn't want to let anyone know about their relationship.. if other force him to think that "it's ok to come out" then he will still feel pressured and conscious of the fact that everyone knows now.. he should only come out when he's ready.. what is so hard to understand here?

I wonder why he doesn't want anyone to know about their relationship....hmmm, oh right, because he doesn't feel safe or comfortable. And why is that? Because everyone is lying to his face pretending they don't know a damn, when all it takes is "I saw a gay couple the other day, they're so cute together" and boom, making the environment more safe. Showing support means all sorts of things, not literally trying to out him. If he was already terrified because of his families reactions/behaviors, do you seriously think Jeongyoon is gonna have a magic courage moment one day? You don't feel terrified to come out cuz of your family and friends then just suddenly feel courage after some time hss passed if no actual change from them has been shown. Your family has to show some form of non-resistance first, and they haven't been given the opportunity to show anything because chaeheon is right there, blocking the way, telling Jeongyoon nothing is happening. It's all good, just look the other way. Chaeheon is literally creating an environment where jeongyoon feels safe solely with HIM, not to others. That is isolatinggggggg. Did you read this story blindfolded.

I don't think you pay much attention when you read this story cuz its not because jeongyoon is solely scared of coming out that everyone is keeping it a secret rather its because he would be too embarrassed to reveal it to others..... jeongyoon's characteristics are timid and innocent, he's someone who doesn't want to be the center of attention.. he's the youngest in his family and that's why everyone treats him like a baby, and most of the time youngest children are more oblivious to their surroundings because they are used to being protected by their family all the time... So they don't want him to feel self conscious or embarrassed to the point it can stress him out thats why they are keeping quiet...Jeongyoon is someone who likes to keep everything to himself to the point it took him 10 years to convey his feelings to chaeheon... Chaeheon knows very well how jeongyoon functions and so does his family, thats why they are trying not to bug him with this coming out issue because this is genuinely not harming anyone.. and its not even an issue in the story... He will eventually come out when they make it more normalized thats why his mom let him move in with chaeheon.. not everyone needs assurance that "it's ok to come out" .. they just need time for the situation to sink in... Chaeheon doesn't want jeongyoon to ponder on things that are not making any issues in their life so he's completely right here for letting minsu know this.. if minsu asked him or say for example tried to get it out from him through assurance, it would make jeongyoon to build up more walls to hide it.. plus there's nothing to talk about with minsu regarding their relationship, its going perfectly fine, tbh more than fine so why does he need to tell the entire world that he's dating a guy? And chaeheon is the person in the relationship, what do you expect him to do when it involves their relationship being outted by other people? Stay in a corner and suck on his finger? How is trying to aware minsu makes jeongyoon being isolated ? Jeongyoon doesn't even know that chaeheon said anything to minsu so how does that solely make him think he's only safe with chaeheon?Make it make sense first.. Minsu particularly doesn't have to talk about jeongyoon's relationship even if he's curious about it...it doesn't affect their friendship in any way or form... Its not a fucking obligation that every single gay person has to come out just because everyone is guessing they are gay.. if they feel comfortable being in a room full of people that knows nothing about them then that's absolutely fine too.. stop making it so freaking complicated...

Him coming out isn't an issue in the story huh. I guess all these chapters we got about jeongyoon being insecure just doesn't exist to you? If after reading all these chapters you think coming out isn't an issue then you need to reread. It is their sole issue since the sides came out. And the way they've all handled it is another issue. How did you miss so much just to spout nonsense. You've took every other detail and spliced it together to create a sweet narrative when if an obvious red flag ml is going over your head then anything you say is meaningless.

Jeongyoon was at least written to be blind and infactuated with chaeheon to miss the flags. What's your excuse as a reader who has all the clues when the author made it so clear with all of chaeheon's expressions and stalking and behavior. It's borderline satire by now how the author writes jeongyoon to be so blind. No use talking to a blind reader who can't even read what the author is giving and thinks what chaeheon is doing is completely normal.

I'm not reading any of these arguments. At the end of the day, it should be an lgbtq's person to come out. Period.

Their family can give hints here and there like his friend is doing, but it has to be their choice. It's really useless fighting over if we should force someone out of the closet or not.

Exactly I can’t believe people are forgetting outting people is bad doesn’t matter if you support them let them come out on their own terms the fuck

Thank you! Exactly this!!