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Same... I almost cried
that was so pure

i mean they were all drunk and one was just drunker than the other 2. This is from someone who spent a good chunk of their life on a cocktail of alcohol, drugs, and sex, you just kinda come to terms with it. Sometimes you had sex when you were drunk, and it wasn't rape, as it was all consensual, even if you don't remember it after.

Even if all parties are drunk... it's still rape. Even if he asked for it, it's still rape. If you cannot legally drive a car, you cannot consent.

This.
Furthermore those two were conscious enough to remember everything, they knew they were doing something wrong.

you do realize people don't notice it when you black out right, especially if you still seem completely normal. I call it teleporting, you zip back and forth into consciousness, and no one knows it but yourself.

This is about the mental state of the person or people giving consent, not how other people perceive it. Again, if you legally cannot drive a car you cannot consent.

jeez everything is rape with you people.

He's not wrong, i studied law no no matter how ppl perceive it taking advantage of a person in a drunken state who can't make rational decesions and having sexual intercourse with them is actually rape, in a legal standpoint that is, but i understand where you're coming from cuz just like you i did crazy stuff even now, i mean you know at some point in a drunk sex when you're feeling good you emotionally decide its consensual without having to declare it! but it's not something to fuss over it since you actually benefited from the feeling unless you felt disgusted and didn't actually want it and even resisted but they still had their way with you

yea but you have to take into account the situation these characters were in. The 3 of them have been drinking for hours, one of them blacked out then initiated sex with the other two who, at that point, most likely drunk enough to be deemed illegal to drive a car (which was the previous commenters' point). And the thing with consciousness while drunk, it depends, sometimes people get shitfaced and remember everything, sometimes people black out on the third drink, my point is that how are the other parties supposed to know, THEN stop themselves from having sex that was initiated by the other person, when they're fucked up themselves? Everything you do while drunk is something you would do while sober had you not think about its consequences.
I'm no rapist apologist and most rape in yaoi is just ridiculous, but this situation just isn't up to the same fucked up standards that that trope has.

This underlying issue is that rape is a plot point. Someone wrote wrote this and is normalizing this behavior, just like you are doing. I just want to reiterate that even if everyone was drunk, they're confused about if someone is sober or not (even though they were drinking with them), and he asked for it... it's still, by definition, rape.

Exactly PERIODT!

I have to agree that it was bad that he didn’t call his lover because he didn’t pay attention to his phones charge but he’s doing everything he can right now for his lover. He should take more care of him which he is going to start doing again and he’s trying so hard to get his parents approval. He’s at least 6 years younger than him and he didn’t have the support of his parent for a while, he probably thinks it’s good that he can act childish around him but he can’t be like that all the time your right.

Yep.

Ik. I mean, the uke didn't have the right to get angry. Our seme IS pressured. But not contacting your lover for just a second isn't okay. This is one of the reasons as to why he has the right to get angry now. I'm just glad that our uke is understanding

But not everyone is perfect right? Every couple have trouble and it's better to make mistake at the beginning of your relationship so you know for the future that you can't do it again.
Plus I don't think that if you do it one time you're being trash... Like sometimes you have so many stuff in your head that you forget things like checking your phone or a date or a meeting

I think that an important person for us isn't easily forgotten tho? I mean, think of it as like your mom. That's how some partners occupies themselves with each other. But, well, some can get easily distracted tho. But yeah, the important thing is that they grow together

I agree. He was so excited about having plans he bought a hotel and was so mature about it when he said he would be late. To get drunk and show up at 9:30 is a big fucking mistake.

I was thinking about my mom when I wrote that haha. She get worried easily, and I have to messages her at least one time in the day. But even knowing that, there were like two or three times I forgot to do it and just slept all day for example. And then she called like the entire universe to know if they knew where I was haha. But again, it was just me being careless because I had other things in mind

They sure are cute together!