What professor doing with mc is called grooming. Yes, he did asked for the consent from mc and yes, it looks like he cares about mc's opinion and give him a choice. You could say that he is better than ml considering what he did. But the thing is that's what a lot of groomers do. Appear as the most trustable, good person to the victim and manipulate them into choosing him without a second thought. We already know that professor has ulterior motives with the way he acted up to now.
And I'm not saying ml is good compared to professor cause we already that he is a rapist.
It’s literally not. Grooming is when an adult tries to establish an emotional connection with a minor with the objective of committing sexual abuse. It’s usually a long process (sometimes even years) which is why victims are most likely to be related or have close interactions with the abuser.
At most this could be a power imbalance situation since he’s a professor and his boss, but the he never forced the mc either, so this is pretty much a
“I thought you liked me so I was going to seduce you and leave the choice in your hands” situation.
Next time please don’t use words you don’t fully know the meaning of, cuz what you described isn’t grooming, it’s manipulation
Isn't that what he is doing though? "adult tries to establish an emotional connection with a minor with the objective of committing sexual abuse" only difference is that both of them are adults but then again there's there's huge age gap and mc is in his early twenties. Also we can he did SAed mc in omegaverse terms when he marked his pheromones all over mc without his consent. And when did mc ever showed interest in professor in a romantic way? He was his idol but he never did anything to interpret as he "liked" the professor.
“I thought you liked me so I was going to seduce you and leave the choice in your hands” no man he already had ulterior motives to approach the mc. He never seduced him because he "thought" mc liked him.
Maybe I used the incorrect term according to you, but you can't possible say that he isn't manipulating mc to get his own way and he never had any other intentions when interacting with mc. Cause even when he gave a choice to mc, it also felt like a part of his plan to me
If you read properly I said “Next time please don’t use words you don’t fully know the meaning of, cuz what you described isn’t grooming, it’s manipulation”
On the other hand I never said mc showed a romantic interest in the professor, I said that the professor might’ve misunderstood, which led him to tell the mc straight to his face that he was interested in him (he probably wouldn’t have done that if he didn’t misunderstand mc’s feelings) but that he was free to go if he wanted to. He never hid it so I don’t really see where you’re coming from, also as far as I remember the age gap is less than 10 years.
I do agree it’s invasive to mark someone without their consent but 1.- that doesn’t affect the mc since he can’t sense the pheromones and 2.- that was most likely to piss the ml off since the ml also marks the mc with his pheromones
If you think about it, the biggest red flag here is the ml.
When he found out mc liked his cousin he crafted a whole ass story of her liking to peg guys in order to fuck the mc with the excuse of “practice”
He constantly marks him with pheromones
It’s one sided but he’s delulu and thinks mc will do everything he wants including living together
Breaks his arm to catch mc’s attention
Downloads tracking app on mc’s phone
And the list goes on
I agree with the other user, this is not grooming. It's a predatory relationship. He's not a child and this isn't happening over years, so it's not grooming. Grooming without negative connotations is what schools do to make children ready for the adult world, teaching them specific skills and attitudes. When pedophiles do it, they twist the grooming so that the child grows up to serve them sexually. So it is quite literally NOT grooming bc Wooju is grown up and he isn't shaping his idea of the world. It's manipulative and predatory, however. I get what you're saying though, it's very calculated. The professor abused his power to try to sleep with a student. We just have other words for what happens between adults.
Just want to to make it clear that me pointing out professor's behaviour doesn't mean I'm on ml's side. In fact I already said that he is a rapist. His sorry ass alpha ego get hurt over the most stupid things, hurt mc and then act like he is the victim. But that doesn't mean we can excuse professor. Yes he seems like saint compared to ml but still he is not a good person. Okay let's think all this was a misunderstanding(which I highly doubt) and professor didn't have any other ill intention towards mc. But does that make asking for sexual favours from a student right considering that he is the adult here? It's creepy no matter how much he appear to be good. And honestly if I was the mc I whould have cut off being friends with ml, and report the professor for his inappropriate sexual advances. One thing I can say though professor is the most interesting character in the story while both ml and mc are typical yaoi couple, a pushover and the other who take advantage of him. Professor on the other hand is mysterious and seems like he has lot more to say.
And also after thinking about it and reading the othe other comment I agree that I used the incorrect term. That's my fault and I apologies for that.
Yeah I agree that it was my fault to name it grooming. I meant predatory and sorry about that.
Once again, I’m not saying we misunderstood the professor, in fact we all know he’s romantically interested in the mc cuz he told him that to his face. I completely agree that it’s inappropriate, in fact that’s why I also mentioned a power imbalance, what I’m saying is that the professor most likely thought that the mc was going to accept cuz his feelings were “reciprocated”, and that’s what HE misunderstood.
Not us. We all know the mc just admires the professor as an architect and hasn’t even thought about him in a romantic way.
Anyways, glad you understood that it was the wrong term. I was groomed for many years, that’s why seeing the word being thrown when it has nothing to do with what’s happening is super uncomfortable. Grooming is manipulation, but manipulation isn’t just grooming.
Im still in the middle of the story and I relate wooyeon cause no one ever knew that I was going through a hard time and even tried to kill myself. I know a part of that is because I always managed to put up a smile and just go through everyday like nothing is wrong. And when junwoo said "you cut your wrist one time doesn't mean you understand me" just because he saw wooyeon having normal life with job and friends, it hurt me. Cause if I was in the shoes of wooyeon at that time I know it whould trigger me and cause me to spiral down more.... no matter how well put together I look. So later when habit hyung criticised junwoo for his comment, I felt seen. And I'm glad he did because it felt like my suffering is not invalidated just because someone else looks like having much harder time than me. It felt like wooyeon was allowed to be hurt too from what junwoo said and not be like "well he went through this and its understandable that he whould tell something like that considering his depression, and the way he lived all these years. I shouldn't take it that hard to myself. " that why I said it as if my pain is not seen in the face of someone who actually look like going through depression. And I do understand why junwoo said it and why he fail to understand wooyeon's feelings but at that moment I can't help but feel for wooyeon considering my past self
When kirino said that it's painful for him to see him grow more masculine, but he is okay... and seeing him leading a life that's society expect him to be, faraway from who he really is, it really broke me. I'm happy for mc and the couple but gosh my heart hurts
The more I think about this, the more it breaks my heart... kirino I wished the world whould have been more accepting of who you really wanted to be :((
i feel so bad for kirino too. it brought me back to reality because when reading BL, the 2 main characters usually get together and live happily, but his situation is also very real and is the choice people often make as well. not everything has a perfect ending and i hate how people push their ideals onto others…imagine if kirino’s mother said she supported him. I can’t help but wonder a AU where he doesn’t have to hide himself. I just wish people would care less about gender when it comes to relationships because in reality they are still people. who says you can’t like the same gender just because straight relationships dominate the population?
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Soo I read some comments but I don't feel like the end is tragic as it is...? Maybe it's just me but I don't feel like they are not in love anymore or drifting apart. It's feel like mc feeling insecure and jealous of all the other things straight people in relationship can enjoy while there's a lot to loose if he ever going to come out to them... and heechan is also respectful of his decisions and loves him all the same. Yes maybe their initial spark has disappeared but now they are more stable and mature in their relationship. Idk this is what I feel like and I did love the ending as it was realistic and I know that they whould always fight for themselves and be there for each other. Eventhough it's only them who knows about their relationship. And I like to think after many more year they whould come out to their friends "Yeah we have loved each other since highschool".
So yes, more than bittersweet ending, I feel like it's more hopeful ending of how they will come out to public and not be worried about being in love infront of each other
O totally agreee with you. The ending was so serene for me, a mature and realistic kind.
The homeroom teacher reminds me of one I had in my school. I remember when me and another girl was talking together in the class and suddenly teacher said to me that stop associating with her or you'll also turn out like that. I mean while she had some behaviour issues she ws not that bad. But yeah that made us very uncomfortable and awkward.
Can I have the novel link please
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Yall if Dohyun is a rec flag according to your standard idk what to call myself
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Why do people hate complex grey characters who are not like 2 dimensional boards but with actual good character development??I have yet to read half of the manga but so far I love all the characters and can understand why they are the way they are... Never am I going to judge a manga by comments
Thank you to who ever picked this up again cause I can't go through a week without reading a chapter of this