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If anyone knows about this stuff or has an opinion pls help me.
I don’t understand why but I genuinely haven’t been able to correspond anyone’s love since like elementary/middle school. Now I’m just starting college and anytime someone likes me I just have this weird pitch feeling and I feel highkey uncomfortable around them. Even if IIII was the one to like them first. Another important thing is that I also genuinely have been feeling desperate to be in a relationship since I’m grown, I feel like I’m missing out on something beautiful that I see a lot of people have and wish to experience. My point is, even when I’m the one that liked the other person first, and fantasize about being in a cute relationship, whenever I’m facing a real opportunity I just can’t, for the life of me, take it. And like it’s not subconscious (I think) that I’m just afraid and I hide it by saying no or smth like that, whenever I feel any reciprocation I physically and emotionally stop feeling attracted, I just start feeling extremely awkward…
Sorry if that’s too extensive but the reason I’m asking 4 help is cause I’m starting to like someone and I truthfully have my hopes high this time so I’d like to work in myself and improve to be able to be in a relationship w someone and be a good partner
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PLEASE AND THANK U
No wait I have almost the same problem! When I like them I hope that they like me and as soon as they do I just start wanting to pull away. Like I’m freaked out? But I can hold out and hold myself back and be kinda into it UNTIL they want to be in a relationship. Like I’m literally in my twenties and never had a boyfriend even though I’ve wanted to be in a relationship since forever ago. I really want to know why too. I’m suspected that it might have to do with that I’m a hopeless romantic at heart but subconsciously I’m scared cause most family I’ve known have gotten divorced. Maybe that’s why? No idea.
lowkey you might be on the aroace spectrum my friend. i am similar to you
Twin you might be on our side the asexual one
Could may be a strong sense of avoidant attachment style or your lithromantic?
this is taking me tf out HELPPPP but i agree
I am in NEED of advice. I literally can’t concentrate. I have my scholarship college exam this weekend and I feel so insecure. Idk if I can explain it well but I don’t even wanna study I think because I’m scared I’ll fail anyway and I dont want to face reality. So what have I been doing instead os studying? Well, keeping my mind busy with BL ig . Idk it’s just so easy to ignore everything else an read and read stories to keep me distracted. I’m actually so sad I want to change so bad to feel like I made an effort but ig I just don’t want to face it, I feel so disappointed on myself I feel like I have no will at all. Anyway can anyone relate? ANY advice at all? please and thank you
hey, so what worked for me was being angry. like really fucking enraged at myself and using that energy to keep at my goals. maybe try that?
and also do not panic and try to keep calm. whatever happens dont lose your cool.
do what you can with what you have. it's better than doing nothing and avoiding the situation, trust.
and yeah i know it can be hard to stay awy from your device but think of it this way: all the stuff you wanna read and watch will still be here all the same. you won't lose it, it won't run away or disappear. you can come back 10 years later and it will still be here waiting for you.
go do what you have to do! you're not the first or the last person to be dealing with life. there were ppl before you and those who will come after, dw youre not alone, you got this.
I feel the same and I'm following for advice too. I am actually scared to seek advice from my family because I feel I'm becoming a disappointment to them, so turning in to here so I can gain some starting point. Advice us please
Even of you ignore everything, eventually you will face your problems. Think of a solution and alternatives to solve it. Don't immediately lose hope. And ofc pray for guidance from God or who ever you worship.
as an adult who has experienced this and will experience it 1000 more times in the future, you need to be okay with being uncomfortable. that’s the only thing that will move you forward. when you’re young and dealing with difficult tasks that you’re not 100% prepared for it makes sense that you escape to short-form entertainment as a way to soothe your anxiety. the truth is that you just need to let yourself be uncomfortable and work. all the adults you see who are successful or have done difficult things have let themselves be okay with being uncomfortable/unsure - if you only live doing easy things that you know you’re good at it won’t progress you forward. even if you think you’re trying and it’s not paying off just keep on going. the best outcomes don’t happen right away, it usually takes a while of continued effort to see just how great the pay off is. you might feel dejected and insecure because you keep on working and don’t see any rewards but trust yourself and keep on going even if you’re unsure or wary. nothing good comes easy, if it does it’s not serving you positively and will only detriment you.
don’t stress too much, you will be fine. even if you’re scared, nervous, anxious, dont trust yourself, and are insecure, you will be okay. life has a funny way of somehow turning out okay in the end as long as you keep on trying to be a better version of yourself. don’t worry about disappointing the people around you because the most important person is yourself, not other people. you are loved and cared for so much more than you think, it’s now your job to face challenges not because of other people but because you want to for yourself. you should study and work hard because you want your future to be bright. you should want to be uncomfortable and unsure because it means you’re going to progress your knowledge and make you more smarter/talented.
it will be okay, you will be fine, just trust yourself and work for yourself. life is hard and you will struggle but it just means you’re living life to the fullest
what I do that works is balance it. If I want to read my manhwa, I need to study for ten minutes. Then I can read for ten minutes, pavlov yourself into a routine, working hard then giving your mind a break. It’s not your fault at all that you’re having issues with this, it’s normal; but u need to be determined to follow through in any way that works
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