
Woooooow, what is this victim blaming going on? So what if the guy chose to go there? In the end it was still his choice. He wanted to help and have resources to help so let him be... that dude is like basically telling military officers not to fight because of the family and lovers will be left behind.
And also, the guy is already trying to move on so let him be...
Seriously, it was low of him... i get it that you are anxious that the old flame is back but the dude is getting through his emotional roller coaster so no need to attack him... him and the ex are not even meeting up anymore...
If he was a bit understanding, I may feel bad for him as well but nope... just nope...