Child abuse shapes people's sense of self, of others and of the world, I know many adults that can't let go of trauma and will refuse therapy at all costs, and I would never date these people even if I knew their sad past BUT, I often hear people saying: "avoid toxic people" but that's very difficult, we are all gonna hurt people around us from time to time, it's just natural to make mistakes, mainly for trauma survivors, what we must really avoid are people that don't acknowledge their toxicity and seek healing – hurting of course is not to r4pe or abuse:
This story normalizes r4pe and abusive behavior, we all know that, I'm just happy to see most of you agreeing that being hurt is no excuse to hurt others; our feelings are valid our actions aren't
This is just a work of fiction but don't allow people like Jaekyung to use you in real life
^Going on the first part of your comment I learned the hard way. I actually just got out of a relationship about a week ago and it was one I should’ve ended sooner. The thing was they were so so so sweet. And I love them so much, still…but they were not ready to be in a relationship. So much shit from their childhood had followed them to adulthood and manifested itself as insecurity. instead of seeing a therapist about it they weaponized it and used it against me to guilt trip me and act passive aggressively towards me instead of talking things out. I kept making excuses because I loved them so much like “oh well they’re acting this way because of their step dad” and oh “they’re just afraid to open up”…but I realized it wasn’t my place to make excuses nor help them fix themselves so I finally had to cut things off because it was hurting me more and more each day. Anyways TLDR: if they’re a dick to you, it doesn’t matter how much trauma they have…if they hurt you END THAT SHIT GIRL because nobody deserves to have their sparkle taken away.
well said! And good luck with your healing, it takes courage to let go of people, mainly if we have good memories with them
MY THOUGHTS AGAIN
I don't haaate the side characters nor the current plot line, but I understand they might seem a bit dull — they appeared out of nowhere to enrich the MCs background and put them in new scenarios but there's so much exaggerated drama, damn a WHOLE TV SHOW JUST FOR THE GIRL TO WRITE???
Seems the author wants Jiah to always be in those "oh my God I'm always the center of attention for no reason so boriiiing" beacuse she's an effortless cool person but instead of "haha that's so random" it feels TIRING, we want her to be LEFT IN PEACEKKKKK so the side characters end up being ANNOYING AS FUCK
The storytelling could have been less serious on the whole Jiah on TV and not make it such a long side plot
I do want Jiah to come back to writing tho, she's a very interesting character and deserves to come back writing if it was something she enjoyed doing! Plus, I bet she would become rich again and rich Jiah means: more alone time for her and her husband as they won't have to work again we all love MCs that don't have to fucking work
I'm really enjoying the plot, tho I simply can't get to like Jiah's friend, she needs to catch a new dick and some therapy, go live girl wtf? And the reason why the guy is annoying Jiah makes sense now, I mean, as someone who loves Neon Genesis Evangelion, what is to annoy a traumatized writer to write again to make your dying wife happy? Have seen worse kk
Wait and see how the friend ends up getting the dick she wanted. Since the wife is dying and all, and! He’s left with a toddler to care for. Watch! Doubt she’ll get the love she dreamed of but she’s getting the dick
no fucking way kkkk that's some gossip oh my
Ngl I'm pretty sure something already challenged remever in a previous chapter when they were drinking pd was like I don't wanna make another mistake. Mate I mean thats real shitty your wife is sick in hospital. I still don't like the so called BFF. She's gives me the ick for getting close to pd despite him being married. She's also close either his child. I dunno.
that's upsetting on both sides, damn
try to get inside it to see where it goes