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i think about soae spreading her legs to others?

when did that happen?? sooae spreading legs? huhh

never ofc, it was when her ex said all that shit about her on the school radio

ohh right

I hope siyeon found someone better(i mean a girl) even though it's kind of confusing either this is gl or not but im still hoping siyeon end up with a girl...

It’s not a gl, was never intended to be. It was just mistagged by the uploader and was never fixed

She doesn’t need therapy for slapping him tho. I’d slap him too. She told him to never talk to her again and yet he does, over and over and he keeps insulting her. He insults her integrity without knowing anything and he insults her person and her body and he even insults her work ethic. Even without the shitty breakup, I’d slap him too. With the breakup, I’d break his jaw. How dare he keep popping up in her life to insult her. If he wants closure, don’t insult her when you see her. That’s just how it works. She tried walking away many times and he always grabs her wrist to stop her from leaving. He put his hands on her first. Legally, she can slap him in self defence. She did nothing wrong. She tried to leave, he wouldn’t let her, then he insults her and then she wants to slap him. How is that her fault? If he was concerned she was cheating, why not confront her? He never did and that’s his own problem. Not hers. It’s HIS misunderstanding and he needs to own up to it. She needs therapy for her trauma but not for her anger. If she’s only ever angry around one person who hurt her immensely and caused ptsd, do you really think she has anger issues? I have ptsd for different reasons but if I ever saw the guy who made me have ptsd, I’d probably kill him without realising it. You get thrown back into the event and your only thought is how to escape and survive. It’s not an anger issue but a ptsd and fear issue. She needs to learn how to cope and how to internally accept what happened and then she needs him to stay away from her for the rest of their lives. You cannot heal in the place that broke you. Him being there just brings up all the memories and throws her back into that situation. She even slapped her sisters hand away to the point her sister was on the floor. She wasn’t angry at her sister. She was scared from the nightmare or night terror and her body tried its best to protect her by fighting off the threat. It’s why you shouldn’t touch someone in a ptsd trigger event. They are not responsible for what their body does in order to protect itself and survive. Just like if someone swings a knife at you and you punch them, that’s self defence. If someone touches you while you’re in a trigger event, your body knows it’s vulnerable while your mind is under attack so everything it does is in self defence until your mind can discern what is a threat and what isn’t a threat.

Please stop responding to my comments with essays

They aren’t official though. Telling her parents about an unofficial relationship would be weird and after what happened the last time she had a relationship, she has a right to be wary. She told him the truth and explained why she had to go. Her mum practically threatened her using her own health as a weapon. If my mum who I’m NC with were to call me and said I’ll die if you don’t do xyz, I’d probably do it. I don’t want to be the cause of my parents death. Joke or not, it’s scary to be threatened like that. Yes, she should have said no but he saw her on her last blind date. They could have compromised. She goes on the blind date and royally screw that one up and tell the guy to tell her mum to never set her up on a date again and then she meets jihan in the parking lot to go onto a real date. He can listen in via phone call to everything she says to the guy. He knows part of her past yet doesn’t understand how hard it is to have ptsd and how slow healing is. He says he’s willing to wait but when he actually does have to wait, he gets angry. She could have cancelled citing work and then gone on the blind date anyway. She chose to be truthful because she wants to make this relationship work. He’s choosing to be angry over the blind date but he’s not thinking about the fact that she could have gone without him knowing. She could have betrayed him. Neither of them said they were exclusive either. He’s hanging around a woman who clearly likes him too so why should she rush her healing and feelings when he can’t set things straight with other women in his life himself? He could tell that girl that he’s pursuing a woman he cares for and that would show him as more trustworthy than her ex. When dealing with ptsd and relationships (I would know cause I have ptsd and I’ve dated people), it’s not simple. The partner needs to do extra to show how trustworthy they are and how they respect the boundaries set by the ptsd haver. It’s not for the whole relationship but trust is earned. She tried to earn his trust by explaining the situation to him. He hasn’t tried to earn her trust at all so far. He’s been there for her but has he done anything especially trustworthy so far? He didn’t even tell her about his business trip. He let her misunderstand his relationship with his friend/coworker for some time before he decided to explain that relationship to her. Those aren’t trustworthy events. She deserves to be able to keep her love life private until he proves to her that he can fulfil her need for trust and respect and loyalty. She deserves to not need to uphold an unspoken rule of “put me above others” when this is about her parents. He knew her parents are like this yet NOW he holds an issue? It’s ridiculous.

Damn that rlly is a toxic trait (￣∇￣")

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newtoki always changes the numbers but for now it's: newtoki314.com

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Omg I thought I’d never see newtoki ever again! They really do change their url a lot thanks

no I think the main lead has that old phone and the 2nd lead stole it to trick the girl