Okay I love hye-sung and never, not once held him at fault for anything that has happened to him because he was just confused, young and scared the whole time BUT that shouldn’t excuse the fact that he’s trying to take out his fears and insecurities on Byul. Even if Byul is a slow learner, he has both his parents and extended family who have more than enough resources to get him the help he needs. So if Hye-sung is worried that Byul will turn out like him (mentally) I completely understand but then again yelling at him and becoming angry at him for something he can’t help is not in any way okay.
You understand quite a bit about Hye-sung but there's something you seem to be forgetting. I decided to speak up since you seem like you're open minded.
I come from a family where yelling is an everyday thing. My family yells about everything. And not just the loud because someone is far away yelling. It's the aggressive kind.
Hye-sung seems to have experienced that kind of environment because of his dad. That kind of anger and yelling is normalized and can even become learned behavior for people, especially kids. Not to mention Hye-sung has always been short tempered. You mention you never blamed him because he's young, scared, and confused, but you forgot that he STILL is. He is still young. He is still confused on how to parent. He's still new to it. Most parents are confused even without studying, dealing with school life, or having to deal with their own insecurities. Him even more so as he was never shown or received examples of good parenting. His first good experience with proper parents was seeing how kind, good, and happy Dojins parents are. Which could also explain why Dojin is so much more calm and better at parenting. Going back to what you said Hye-sung is also still scared. He's scared Byul will turn out like him or have to feel what he's been through. He's scared he won't be able to help Byul since he is only now starting to get help himself. His fear comes from his love for Byul.
Hye-sung also, in the heat of the moment, isn't capable of remembering or considering that Byul has plenty of family and resources to help him succeed and overcome any challenges he might face.
He was wrong in yelling at Byul like that but I think it should be understood and not met with blind hate.
You understand quite a bit about Hye-sung but there's something you seem to be forgetting. I decided to speak up since you seem like you're open minded.I come from a family where yelling is an everyday thing. M... Glitterfilia
I 100% agree with you and understand that his upbringing plays a huge part in how he parents and that he is still young, confused and scared. I also recognize his efforts and believe he has had some great character development. I only commented what I did bc It seemed like he didn’t feel an ounce of remorse after seeing Byul cry from his outburst. His reaction is something that I’d expect from him, I just didn’t like seeing Byul cry from getting yelled at, that’s all it was. I don’t love him any less bc of it. I just wanted to point out what I felt. Also, I do feel that Hye-sung should be seeking some type of therapy to discuss his childhood trauma , so that he can rationalize those feelings and become a better person for himself and his family.
Okay I love hye-sung and never, not once held him at fault for anything that has happened to him because he was just confused, young and scared the whole time BUT that shouldn’t excuse the fact that he’s trying to take out his fears and insecurities on Byul. Even if Byul is a slow learner, he has both his parents and extended family who have more than enough resources to get him the help he needs. So if Hye-sung is worried that Byul will turn out like him (mentally) I completely understand but then again yelling at him and becoming angry at him for something he can’t help is not in any way okay.
You understand quite a bit about Hye-sung but there's something you seem to be forgetting. I decided to speak up since you seem like you're open minded.
I come from a family where yelling is an everyday thing. My family yells about everything. And not just the loud because someone is far away yelling. It's the aggressive kind.
Hye-sung seems to have experienced that kind of environment because of his dad. That kind of anger and yelling is normalized and can even become learned behavior for people, especially kids. Not to mention Hye-sung has always been short tempered. You mention you never blamed him because he's young, scared, and confused, but you forgot that he STILL is. He is still young. He is still confused on how to parent. He's still new to it. Most parents are confused even without studying, dealing with school life, or having to deal with their own insecurities. Him even more so as he was never shown or received examples of good parenting. His first good experience with proper parents was seeing how kind, good, and happy Dojins parents are. Which could also explain why Dojin is so much more calm and better at parenting. Going back to what you said Hye-sung is also still scared. He's scared Byul will turn out like him or have to feel what he's been through. He's scared he won't be able to help Byul since he is only now starting to get help himself. His fear comes from his love for Byul.
Hye-sung also, in the heat of the moment, isn't capable of remembering or considering that Byul has plenty of family and resources to help him succeed and overcome any challenges he might face.
He was wrong in yelling at Byul like that but I think it should be understood and not met with blind hate.
I 100% agree with you and understand that his upbringing plays a huge part in how he parents and that he is still young, confused and scared. I also recognize his efforts and believe he has had some great character development. I only commented what I did bc It seemed like he didn’t feel an ounce of remorse after seeing Byul cry from his outburst. His reaction is something that I’d expect from him, I just didn’t like seeing Byul cry from getting yelled at, that’s all it was. I don’t love him any less bc of it. I just wanted to point out what I felt. Also, I do feel that Hye-sung should be seeking some type of therapy to discuss his childhood trauma , so that he can rationalize those feelings and become a better person for himself and his family.