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I definitely see where you're coming from. However, even for people who aren't blood related, there's an issue with the type of relationship you have with someone - who you think of as family and as a romantic partner are worlds apart in many ways. There isn't usually anything healthy behind a relationship that is based on familial love - even if its not blood related. Like, the dynamics of the relationship are skewed.
Honestly, since this is fiction and is pretty well written, I'm not too perturbed by the route it's going. But I can understand other people's squickiness from it
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Hari was adopted as a replacement for his dead sister. They were raised as siblings. That’s what really irks me. Regardless if they are blood related, they are still siblings...!

Not only that, but she married Yohan in her past life... and then she falls in love with Eugene...?! In her past life she acknowledged him as a brother and now she has romantic feelings for him?!

I can understand that, to be honest. Let me be the devil's advocate and ask you... When you get married bc of love, you eventually become a family with that person as well. That love will expand to family love. A lot of people who eventually marry who have strong bonds say that they share not only romantic love, but also family love and friendship love. I don't know if you see where I am going... How different is that to the story's situation? Keep in mind that they, from the start, did not want to acknowledge that she can be their sister. Everyone in the family established that she is not a replacement for their sister, although from the start because of their mother, some of them had to pretend. After that, she got slowly accepted into the family but whether that was even family love from the three brothers is still in question. The description of their intent was slightly different than accepting her as a sister.

You seem to really hate this... haha... I see you in every comment. This is just my opinion and honestly, I kinda see your point. Let me be the devil's advocate for debate's sake.
Yes, but eventually the conclusion is that she is not a replacement for the dead sister. He directed the suffering of losing his sister as mistreatment towards Hari, because of his mother's mental illness and his mother seemingly treating Hari as her actual daughter.
Hari from the past life always felt like she did not belong, and in truth, she actually did not belong in the family due to all the miscommunication and unfair hatred directed towards her. Once she got the reciprocated feeling of acceptance from the three brothers, she started to want to protect them from the damage of losing their parents.
I don't think their relationship is clear from the very beginning. They were raised as siblings, but none seem to actually see her as a sister and have some inclination towards another kind of love from the unfair hatred. The situation becomes not black and white, but rather a murky gray.

I still can’t continue on reading this, it’ll just bother me way to much. I was hoping this story would be a familial love and then Hari would develop her relationship with Yohan... But it’s not, and I’m so disappointed. :(

That's a fair point. However, even among family the relationships you have with them are different. The relationship you have with your parents is different than what you have with your sibling, aunt/uncle, grandparents, etc. So, just because you consider someone family, that doesn't always translate to thinking of them as a relative. Which you do make a point about with the brothers - it is true! But, where I think people are having some difficulty is that, up to this point, it has been pretty stressed that Hari thinks of him as a brother. So it is odd, then, that she - who also has been saying that she loves another guy that she married in her past life - would then fall in love with Eugene.
Of course, I think with the writing being as it is, they are going to spend some time exploring and explaining these things more from Hari's perspective. And since I think the writing is good, I think there will be a good/satisfying explanation for why she and Eugene fall in love.

Its virtual food so I guess they thought it was alright.

Not in the context with our lovely mc!!!