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That's not why she is doing it. Her family obviously treat him better than her. She doesn't receive love or attention but her brother is while doing nothing, she hate him because he takes away all the love. Even if it's not true, it's how it feel to be the neglected child.
She is using his sexuality to hurt him because it's the only weakness she have a hold of. She is desperate, it's like kids picking fights and committing crimes as a cry for help to get their parents attention. Except since her sibling is receiving all the attention she's trying to deflect it.
She probably couldn't care less that he is gay.

I know but that doesn't excuse her behavior in any way, shape or form. She acknowledges it herself but im not saying that her wanting affection, love and attention from her family is bad, its her approach towards trying to attain it that bugs me. Its not just her outburst towards her brother but her family as a whole. What she is doing to her younger brother is just one of the reasons why I consider her scummy

Well as someone who have been in a similar situation I can't judge her that much. The depression, the self-hatred and your family basically confirming you are worthless by ignoring you just feel like drowning.
When your sibling get everything you ever wanted without asking for it, it just feel like a betrayal. Especially if you know your sibling is as flawed as you are.
You feel trapped and hurt and you can't run away, so you hurt others in an attempt to protect yourself because nothing else work. The only alternative is to act as the wall decoration everyone want you to be. Be pretty, be kind, be quiet, be independent, take care of yourself alone and be a good sister for your brother but never ask for anything in return for your efforts to be perfect. It crush you from inside. There is no winning scenario, you just lose, lose, lose, so why not try to drag everyone down with you ? Maybe if they get down to your level they'll finally help you ? But it never work.
The only way to get better is to give up. When I stopped wanting my mother love my relationship with my brother improved instantly. You just have to accept you'll never be good enough.
Ironically it's when you stop needing it that the parents will start to listen.

Yeah it's a scummy behavior. But also there's no solution other than suffer alone or make them suffer with you. It's a desperate situation where everyone get hurt but the only one who'll have to deal with the guilt and blame is the sister. For the rest of her life while the other two move on.
I feel like asking her to stay the perfect, invisible sibling and just take everything alone is quite cruel since she have no way of solving the situation by herself, the mother does.

Aww man im sorry that even has to happen to people in the first place and yeah I completely feel you. As someone who has been neglected, hell I always recieved the worst treatment compared to them (I've been abused) and I always felt ignored and my accomplishments were always overlooked and overshadowed by my sisters and younger brothers, I wont deny that it feels completely miserable as if you are fragmant to those around you. Funny enough, I never even tried to garner her love and attention after figuring that out as well. I understand where she is coming from but in my perspective I feel super bad at the fact that she considers being gay as a detrimental flaw, considering how im gay myself. So it definitely hit me some kind if way, especially because at one point I was judged, criticized and hurt by my family that wasn't willing to understand. I just really wished that such situations didn't exist in the first place, it definitely has to do with gender as well and cultural situations. I mean I come from a Latin background where men are still considered more valuable even if its not outwardly spoken. Im not scared to admit that I still feel bitter over it. So far im just greatful for what I've been given and that my family came to understand and accept me for who I am