Everytime I read a yaoi I realize these are the only dicks I ever see. My life sucks.
Everyone is right, irl dicks tend to be kind of gross and on top of that a lot of guys don’t take the same level of care with their genital hygiene as females. (I admit bc of my ocd I’ve taken it to far-bad idea. I thought I had a std but it turned out I had bacterial vaginosis from washing my twat to much. FYI washing your cooch more th n a couple times a Day is as bad as douching.) Anyways bc guys have a lot more testosterone they tend to get some stank sweat from their sweat glands in the crotch. Can make their junk smell like onions or even worse, (shudder) cheese. I always get mad when dudes talk about the smell of a females crotch but I’ve gone down on both genders and even the least fresh female was 100 X’s better then a guys penis funk. But all that being said I eventually began to find the penis not as gross. I used to think balls were the most epically disgusting part of a guy but I eventually became stimulated by giving head and even sucking on balls. It was a progression though bc when I was like 13 the thought of a penis in my mouth made me want to puke. In fact a year later when I gave head for the first time I did puke. On his dick. It was pretty embarrassing. But eventually I got into it. I think it’s bc I was with the guy for a long time and I became less inhibited with my own sexuality. Also as our sex experience grows what we find titilating shifts. My point being that sex is weird and gross irl when you examine it objectively. But when lust is activated and you’re in the heat of it, things change and shift. Also as we grow up the way we see things changes. And on top of all that love can make the hideous less so. My first love, (not a very attractive guy) but when I fell in love with him, even his nose that had been broken multiple times had charm. And to add another thing. There is someone out there for everyone. There are so many different ppl with differing tastes and ideas of beauty. I’ll mention my first love again. He was not hot yet he never had trouble finding gf’s. Even beautiful gf’s. I was absolutely in love with him. He ended up dumping me for a hotter and “sluttier” chick and had been cheating on me with my bff. (It’s a long complicated story.) But he had no problem getting laid or gf’s and he was actually pretty ugly. I’m not and the hottest chick out there (I’m actually pretty plain faced and although I’ve had big boobs since 12 I tended to be on the plump side) but I’ve never had trouble getting laid. I’ve had ugly bf’s and bf’s pretty enough to be models. It’s about finding common interest and being open to a relationship (or even just sex). It’s not easy to change your mind set but that’s the only thing that holds you back. No matter what you think you look like (and some of us judge ourselves way to harshly) someone will want to be with you. I promise. It’s 100% about being open to it. Sounds cheesy but I swear it’s true. One day your destined penis or penises will come. (A little double entendre there.)
I used to look in the mirror and see a troll, an actual troll. I found myself hideous and disgusting. I hated everything about my body. To the point I starved myself before binging and purging. I took my add meds as weight loss drugs. And I didn’t get better overnight. But I’m kind of an extreme case. But I realized something by watching ppl. First plenty of ppl who aren’t gorgeous by societal standards are confident, happy and have no problem getting lovers. So even if you think your ugly it doesn’t matter bc plenty of ppl who aren’t “attractive” by current societal standards do just fine. It’s not always about beauty. Does beauty make things easier, yes but it’s not everything and if it’s the only thing it doesn’t hold on to much. Beauty without heart and intelligence doesn’t keep interesting and cool ppl around. The best advice I can give is to be open. Also give compliments when applicable. A person you think is cool you’d like to get to know is sitting near you, find something to compliment then on that will start a conversation. Something you can tell they’re proud of or into. Like if they have cool gauges mention how much you like them. Say something about how you’ve wanted to get them done but haven’t been able to or that your parents are strict. Whatever. Ppl are a lot easier then we think. Especially guys if that’s youre interest. Maybe bc I was raised by a lesbian but I used to think guys were super complicated. I was very wrong. So wrong. Not dissing dudes and I’m sure they’re some crazy complicated guys out there. Maybe.
That’s kind of me in a nutshell. Off topic, tmi and completely random. I also am obsessed with describing things perfectly. Ask me if I like a shirt and it’s a dissertation on the feel of the fabric, the thread count, the exact shade or hue and how the pattern bothers me but I like the fit so I deal with it. Then I’ll mention the jeans that o got to go with it and how they don’t work with my fav boots bc there’s to many buckles. I think it’s bc my brain won’t stop thinking then rethinking and it just tumbles out into what I hope is a coherent set of sentences. It’s a blessing and a curse
Ok, my English may not help me very much here, cause I can't find the words to say how much what you said resembled my situation, my thoughts, and my feelings about myself. I used to criticize myself all the time since I was 11, basically most of the time it was about my poor social life and my appearance, I hated guys and thought they would hurt me (because of my childhood), but as I entered university I understood how much I was wrong, at least now I have a better opinion of myself, my appearance, and the people around me. I could find some pretty good friends which I couldn't in the past and I am still working on myself, after all as you said it is all in our minds and we are the ones who controls it and choose our ways to deal with things in life. And now, I am gonna have some changes in my plan for the future, thanks









LIE HONEY.