
I mean, I get it. Lilian (idk if its correct) wants to get married to someone on her own accord. Though I don't like how she opposed to her family (that she'll kill herself if she gets married to someone who she doesn't even know). There's not much difference to those manipulative assholes who manipulates their partner by saying that they'll kill themselves if their partner doesn't follow what they want.
And humans are naturally hypocrites, not just nobles. You're not excluded.
What a responsible parent