
I haven’t read much yandere smut but the ones I have read all had SA and grape. Like is this normal for this genre bc I think I’m vastly leaning I don’t like it.

I noticed that too. I guess yandere characteristics seem to easily lead to SA in smut genre. It kinda makes sense, that a person who is so deeply in love that he/she knows no bounderies (aka acting needlessly possessive and protective in everyday life aka a yandere) will also overstep sexual bounderies.
On that note I recommend reading "Yandere killing"
So we have a yandere, a tsundere, and a dumbass? Damn