for context, i recently lost my cat because of an accident. he went out of the house when my family left the door open. he went to a relative's house across the road and the dog there chased my cat, so, my cat ran towards our home. unfortunately, a motorcycle hit him and he died.
a while ago, me n my aunt went out. i told her that a friend is giving me a cat and i'm getting it (didnt tell her that i was getting it because of my grandma who probably misses our two cats who died earlier this year and last december). she was implying that i was not taking care of my cat properly that's why it died and told me that the one that i'm getting will also end up like my cat. SHE KNOWS THAT IT WAS AN ACCIDENT AND NO ONE WANTED IT TO HAPPENED. i told her, again, that it was an accident and no one knew that it would happened. if i knew, i would've kept my cat with me in my room and saved myself from a heartbreak. now, i'm not talking to her, because i was ticked off of the things she said, and i dont plan on talking to her anytime soon.
I argue with my dad over a lot too. Doesn't feel good.
But I learn that it's best shut up when I'm mad. Especially when I'm mad cuz I always regret whatever I say after things cool down. In your case both of you are not in the wrong so
Eh-... Forget what I said. You could never predict that accident would happen.
I have lots of cats too, and if I were in your position and heard that from them, Im not only gonna be pissed, theres gonna be a war. They dont know how painful it is to lost a pet, especially in an accident that we didnt even hope for. Jeez, I should've slapped her for you. Im most triggered when she implied about what might happen to the cat you are planning to adopt. She is not a god, so please shut her mouth. She doesnt even know how you take care of your pet, so who she is to talk about it?!
And Im so sorry for your lost. If you dont feel like talking to her, thats fine. Sometimes, its better to ignore or cut them off rather than deal with their close minded minds. Those are kinds of people who are freaking insensitive about others, and theyre the type of relatives who are toxic. Im not gonna surround myself with that people when things are already stressful in life, and not gonna sit down and listen to their crappy opinion either
Family members isn't supposed to be easily cut ties with. silence can calm things down let's just leave it at that.
hi. is it bad to be a mad at my mom for not buying me a game controller? i first asked my dad for it and my dad told me he'll tell my mom about it and i knowif he tell her, she wont buy it EVER. i know it sounds bad, but it's always been like that for as long as i can remember. if i ask for something, she'll always say, "yes, we'll buy it later" and not buy it at all. if my siblings ask for something, after a week or two, they'll have what they asked for. : ( it just feels unfair. i can count on a single hand for the things that i asked for since i was a kid, and not a single one of them was bought. i never asked for much. i only ask for things if i think i earned them and if i really want them. i mostly asked for something if i graduated or if it's my birthday (its not like every year i have something that i really like).
so, is it bad? i'm just so fed up. at some point, i just stopped asking her for things maybe when i was 16 or 17. so, that's that. i'm just mad. : (
Hi, I think your feelings are valid. Initially, I thought you’re just being selfish for not getting a game controller, but when you said that your sibling will immediately get what they wanted while you seldom asks for things but wont get what you wanted, that was really unfair for your part. It’s a different story if your siblings also dont get what they wanted, but when they’ve only done that with you, totally unfair.
You're not wrong chat. Honestly my only advice would be to start showing you can be independent too, i'm sure you are but you gotta stand for urself. Don't let them get into you like that, you strong