It doesn't surprise me that it takes a female protagonist to suggest peacefully talking to the enemies before attacking them like a bunch of bloodyhirsty maniacs
Yaoi like this has taught me that if you want someone to fall in love with you, tell them not to fall in love with you and they will fall head over heels in love with you.
I think he should do both... the child still needs an education and Jace is the only one capable of teaching him lmao