
If I was in a relationship with someone like Minato, everyone around me would be screaming to dump his ass. And I would long before anyone else told me to. The insane hot-cold nature, the constant running away the second they get upset, the stone walling… it’s not a healthy relationship. Toxic af. Shizuma is bad because he smiled (Minato only reacted at that point)? Because someone else made him happy? That’s actually insane if you think that you should be the sole source of happiness for your partner at all times.
Trauma is a reason but NEVER an excuse to treat the person you love like that. And I know this is fiction ladies and gents, but in real life. Please never never never let someone treat you badly because of their past. You deserve better.

I hope he stays asexual and it’s not some “oh I just didn’t meet the right person”. We need more asexual rep!!

Yeah I get that. But as someone who is probably ace (could also be gray/Demi/etc cause I haven’t “found the right person I guess”. Love reading romance and smut, don’t care if it ever happens to me.) I just want to see Aro/ace rep without it turning into another “I found the right person” trope. Cause I don’t feel like that’ll be handled well. Maybe it will in this story but I just want the rare few depictions of asexuality to stay away from romance and never feel like the ace person needs it to be “fixed”.
(Can’t recall examples atm but) When asexuality is depicted and later they fall for someone else it tends to come off as “oh I guess I was never ace in the first place. Just gay/straight”.

I’m also saying this as some who is very ace and very likely aro so I get u. Ace rep in general is still pretty rare so obviously you want stuff that feels closer to your experience. I think my problem is just like, as much as the “finding the right person” trope fucking sucks, going purely in the opposite direction is also. reductive. and in doing so erases huge parts of the spectrum. so in the end you still end up with one-dimensional representations & stereotypes (the ace who got “””fixed””” vs the ace who is divorced from sex and romance with no in between)
that being said every time I have found (specifically japanese) characters who are explicitly identified as (aro)ace [bc japanese usage of the term differs from english] (and not just like, you get the vibes from them bc they’ve “never felt anything before” and “don’t have any interest” re: sex & romance) they’re never put through “just met the right person” plot lines (in a sex/romance way at least) so idk. also important point to separate sexual from romantic attraction - there’s some great romantic ace characters in manga as well! unfortunately not the same can be said about aro characters who experience sexual attraction/have sexual libidos but that’s not limited to just japanese media.
Also I did go look this up in japanese and there’s four chapters left, with the two of them settling into a very qp-vibes partnership by the end so! there’s that!

You don’t have time to shit and text? No one is SO BUSY they can’t send a text before bed or when they’re on the toilet.
If I was dating someone who didn’t respond to my messages for a week it’s over. Who doesn’t look at their phone even once for a week? Unless it was confiscated— which it wasn’t

Literally! Even when I’m working, if I have a lunch break or a toilet break, I’m immediately replying to friends and family and when I was dating, I would even quickly call them. On my way home from work, I’d text them or if the sunset was particularly pretty that day, I’d send a pic of it. It literally isn’t that hard at all. Even if you’re busy, take a pic of what you’re busy with. You got coffee? Great! Snap a pic and send it to your partner. About to go to bed? Quickly send a goodnight text before passing out. If they wanted to find the time, they would.
I wonder if the people who are ok with the relationship are teenagers while the ones who aren’t are adults.
When I was a kid, I thought the relationships in Card Captor Sakura (between the elementary girl and her adult teacher) was “ok” because she was “mature for her age.” I agreed with Ariel when she wanted to give up her tail for land and a man.
When I was a teen, I thought relationships between teensxAdults was ok if the teen was “mature enough.”
In both cases it was always the younger one pursuing which made it feel ok. If it was the other way around it would have felt disgusting….
As an adult, kids and teens will/should never be “mature enough” for an adult relationship. Kids and teens should enjoy their childhood… they only have a few years for it. You’ll spend the last 3/4+ of your life as an adult and it’s so daunting.
To the people who say, “it’s just fiction! Stop ruining this for us!” How is anything being ruined by a comment you don’t have to care about? You don’t have to interact with everything. But also, people can apply critical thinking to the things they read and make commentary about literature. It’s literally what we did in our English classes. It doesn’t mean you like or dislike the story, you just dissect it and think about it. Like “Lolita” or the “Great Gatsby” or poems by Edgar Allen Poe.
Disagreeing with what characters do is normal. Do you think the people who read Killing Stalking agreed with the rape/murder/stalking/kidnapping/leg-breaking? Stating discomfort or dislike for a topic is not a personal attack.
This is a personal attack: To the people who say, “that’s too long I’m not going to read that. But you’re wrong.” It’s no wonder you think this relationship is ok at your age. I did when I was a kid. Hopefully you can apply your experiences and critical thinking when you’re older.
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Anyway.
I started reading this thinking it’d be a cute one sided crush and then there’s a time slip where he pursues the older one once he’s 18… I’m going to put this on pause till it’s either done or much further along as I am curious to see how it ends. (Does he go to jail for fucking a minor? or do they time skip because he promises to “wait” or whatever.)
Hell, I had crushes on older teens and adults as a kid. I think we all did and that’s why the kid’s crush is relatable. But we also understand it’s not appropriate on the older teen to reciprocate at this time.
I’m not looking for an argument. I’ll ignore inflammatory responses. Just typing out my thoughts on how a person’s age affects their perception of the things they read. Which is why you see people in the comments who are ok with this story’s development while others are not.
Completely agree here!
Still hoping bc of his comment about understanding that an elementary school kid is not okay, that he truly does not act on anything and puts a pause on any of this until there's a time skip because it has been such a cute read until this, though ;~;
Sorry to the person whose response disappeared (at least for me)! I think I was editing some grammar/spelling and that somehow deleted your comment? Didn’t realize that that’s how mangago works.
Completely (ish) agree!!!! When I was a teen I thought "wow, she pulled a 20 something yr old in hs" now that I'm a 20 something I'm like "WHY WOULD A 20 SOMETHING BE INTO A HS?!?"
Like u said, a kid having a crush on someone older is (usually) innocent and typical, BUT THAT PERSON LIKING THEM BACK?!?!?! No. Even if he "waits for him" THATS STILL WRONG, it's practically grooming and BEING a pedo!!!!!
Totally agree that actually waiting and liking a child is still wrong and creepy.
When I said “wait” I was thinking it’d be like, the older one thinks it’s a joke or doesn’t take the promise seriously and goes about their own life as normal. Maybe even separating completely since they go off to college and don’t see the kid anymore. Which is what usually happens in other BL where there’s a large age gap.
No they're all adults I've checked a few profiles and a lot have been on this site since the fucking 2010s they're just pedophiles
Bruh I've been reading manga/bl since I was literally 12 so that doesn't mean they're adults or pedophiles, they can very well still just be teens
Also why are you wasting so much time on this story that you're checking profiles ⚰
Because i hate pedophiles hope this helps i looooove telling them to kill themselves
Oop that's on me, totally misunderstood and that makes wayyyy more sense, and yea that's what I'm hoping for too!!!
You're a freaking stalker creep
Apparently looking at public profiles of people that reply to my comments defending pedophilia is stalking now
This is some creepy behavior you've got there you don't even read this why would you waste ur time checking the readers profiles go find smth better to do
So i can block them you fucking idiot what do you think someone sane of mind is going to do when they click on the profile of a pedo/pedo apologist???
If you don't want to interact with people who enjoy shota manga just stay away from the comments section