nolifereads July 17, 2020 9:59 pm

I talked with a friend of mine, who's originally from Korea, about their argument.
He said, in his circle of aquaintances, it is very common to ask your partner to avoid certain people/genders (especially one-on-one meetings).
What is your outlook on that, guys? Is it similar in your countries?

Most of my friends here in germany would deem this behavior too invasive. Of course, fears have to be communicated and the trust upheld - However, the choice of your aquaintances is your own responsibility.

    yonyon5432 July 17, 2020 10:47 pm

    I'm from Israel and I've seen it happen, but it's usually seen as pretty invasive like you said. It really depends on how you do it... it'd be fine to tell your partner that you're uncomfortable knowing that they meet a certain person, but it's very uncommon to ask to them to straight up avoid that person. And if you force or guilt them into avoiding that person, then that's seen as pretty abusive.

    Telling someone to avoid people with a certain to characteristic, like gender, will NEVER happen. Most people here really value their freedom so that's going way overboard. If my boyfriend would ask me to avoid other gay guys I'll tell him that it's not going to happen but we should talk about it to see what's bothering him and try to solve it in some other way.

    It's really interesting to see how different relationship dynamics can be in different cultures. It always felt a little weird to me when someone in a manhwa told their partner to avoid someone else, and now that you brought this up it makes a lot more sense. Sorry for the long reply lol, thanks for sharing this!ヾ(☆▽☆)

    blatantescapist July 18, 2020 1:04 am

    Yeah, probably a cultural difference but in this case, I’m sure it’s insecurity.

    Misaqi July 18, 2020 8:15 am

    it’s normal where i live. i think if both parties don’t mind, i don’t see any problem with that.

    however, telling your partner not to meet with someone already instills a fear in you; the fear of disappointing your partner etc, which leads to you not telling your partner when you bump into/meet with that person you’re supposed to avoid.

    i don’t know whether it’s right or wrong, because i know some people have their reasons... the best thing to do is to come to a compromise if you think you won’t be able to avoid that certain person, or if you think your partner is being too invasive

    yonyon5432 July 20, 2020 11:32 am

    Yeah, I guess it also depends on the reason, if you feel like someone's trying to steal your partner then that's a trust issue and it's better to talk about it instead. But if, for example, you think that that someone might hurt your partner, then I can see how asking them to avoid that person might be the way to go

nolifereads July 16, 2020 11:30 am

Pls, let it be a switch ♡
Serious lack of switches in BL
(Thank god, that's not the case in Real Life)

nolifereads July 15, 2020 7:45 am

Did anyone else smell incoming angst in Jun's face after Chungho said "It's the last year we can all be together,right?" ?

nolifereads July 13, 2020 9:00 pm

Realization done, proper communication next! Can't wait.

nolifereads July 13, 2020 5:36 am

How can one bear seeing their beloved beaten up? ┗( T﹏T )┛
I can't even enjoy a strangers boxing match because I'm afraid they'll get seriously hurt - especially since hits to the heads can have unpredictable consequences.
On the other hand, that can be said for many
professional sports, and Swan himself knows and understands how challenging this passion can be.

nolifereads July 11, 2020 11:12 am

In another novel that boy could have been The 'Hero with a Troubled Past', having edgy talks like this:
Villian:"Did your parents drop you on your head as a baby?"
Crown Prince: "Bold of you to assume I was held."

nolifereads July 7, 2020 8:23 pm

Hah, I love the smell of a new chapter. Especially this one - Very dreamy (▰˘◡˘▰)
Thank you for blessing us with an upload!

nolifereads July 5, 2020 11:48 am

That is one elephant of a dick,
http://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/red_candy/hs/d_chapter-15/pg-7/
and your tellin' me some rubbing
"is nOt rEaLLy different from putting it in"?
Even Tarzan would think thrice before riding that! Respect, I guess?

nolifereads July 5, 2020 10:59 am

Expected to recharge on the fluff,
but got angst-topping for free.
- The FLaVoR

nolifereads July 4, 2020 6:18 pm

Daddy Emperor be like, 'I know a place'
and then choke you straight to Hell.

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