
Anyone and everyone can get hurt or abused and they are entitled to feeling hurt or abused. No matter what privileges they have or do not have, they are allowed to feel the full weight of their own pain and suffering without judgment. Sometimes physical pain is worse than emotional pain and sometimes, emotional pain far exceeds physical pain. But in both cases, pain is still painful. If it hurts, you’re allowed to say it hurts and if you want to cry, you’re allowed to cry. You shouldn’t put your pain and others pain on a hierarchy. My mother abused me my whole life. She has cancer now. She also has anxiety and depression, same as me. She has since apologised for mocking my anxiety and depression since to her, the mental health conditions are far far worse than her cancer. There’s a treatment for her cancer and there’s new technology and techniques to help her through it. There’s next to nothing new for anxiety and depression. She’s never once cried to me about her cancer. She always cries about how much anxiety and depression are ruining her life. That’s not to say mental health is worse than cancer! That’s to say that pain is universal and hurting someone who’s already in pain is something you’ll end up regretting. One day, you’ll feel the pain of the person you mocked and that will end up being the worst pain you feel because all the words you said about the other person will become the words you say to yourself to rub salt in the wounds. Please don’t end up like that. Respect peoples pain and your own. Pain doesn’t last forever but memories can. Don’t let their last memory of you be a horrible one if you can help it.

Thanks been a while since i cried, even when i was reading the chapters i couldnt cry this helped so much. I hope you and your mom get better cus even how much they treat us you just cant abondon them. I hope your are happy or find happiness. (Im not good at emotional stuff this cringed me hard but i couldnt bring myself not to reply lol)

Oh I don’t consider her my mum. I only called her mother for ease of this post. I talk to her for the sake of my baby sister. I’m very happy now. I still have anxiety and depression but I’m doing really well compared to back then! My mother has a therapist and a support system so she’s not left alone either and I don’t turn her away when she comes crying. I don’t want to be a bad role model to my sister by being mean to her beloved mum. I’m glad you replied tho! I hope you also have happiness in your life!

Killer whales are actually part of the dolphin family and the name was a mistranslation. Killer whale is supposed to be whale killer. They’re actually really smart and mostly kind creatures and they help humans out sometimes! They’re really misunderstood.

Orcas have helped guide humans to land and have gone between sharks and humans. They are kind. They are kind to their young and their elders too. They are loving creatures. Dolphins hurt other animals for fun and they view humans as part of the entertainment too. Orcas are too big to be held in captivity since they are migratory animals. They need the ability to swim thousands upon thousands of miles. We see their vicious side because we put them in a too-small cage and force them to perform for us. If we didn’t, orcas would be seen as the kind and beautiful creatures that they are.

If you think wild animals lack the ability to be kind, you’re wrong. Wild animals have been known to help other species on occasion and sometimes even adopt a child from another species and raise it as their own. They also can recognise who is good to them and who isn’t so they can recognise kindness and cruelty and tell them apart. Animals are far more intelligent than we give them credit for. Even domesticated animals still have a streak of wild in them. If you can find a cat or dog to be kind and lovable then that should be true for all animals.

But I’m not attributing morals to them??? Kindness is a value not a moral. Kindness takes many forms and doesn’t have a set view. Morals have set views. They are not the same. Killing a creature that’s dying is mercy and kindness but morals would have you not kill since all killing is “bad” according to morals. You can’t talk about morals and values interchangeably.

My dude, people say humans are kind or that bunnies are cute and kind or that deer are. Bunnies eat their own children when they annoy them and deer eat chicks and eggs that fall out of the nest. You can have duality in animals. There’s not a single thing on this planet that is purely one thing. In fact nothing is purely good or evil. No multi-celled organism is purely carnivorous or herbivore and therefore you can’t put morals onto them. You can however give credit where credit is due and call them an adjective based on the merit they earned. If an animal helps me when it absolutely has no need to, it’s kind. If an animal hurts me when it has absolutely no need to (I’m looking directly at wasps for this part), it’s a jackass. Like humans have good and bad humans, animal species have both good and bad individuals. Elephants are seen as benevolent and helpful and loving however some of them are downright petty and others are cruel. Just like humans AKA ANIMALS!! WE ARE ANIMALS!! WE ALSO KILL AND MAIM AND TORTURE!! SOME OF US MASS MURDER AND COMMIT GENOCIDE AND WE ARE ANIMALS!!! Yes you cannot judge a whole by a few but you CAN give credit where credit is due. Orcas have gone off migratory pathways to help humans. They don’t have to do that. In fact, it’s to their own detriment to do that and yet they still do it. It’s kindness and compassion.

Long lost siblings and parents who have lost their child in infancy can end up having romantic or sexual feelings towards their long lost relative when they re-encounter them as adults. It’s a weird phenomenon but it happens often enough that it’s considered psychologically “normal” which is gross. I think there might even be a term for it but I did NOT want to go down that rabbit hole after finding out this cursed knowledge from a tv show connecting lost relatives… rabbit hole away at your own risk.
They are such good parents both individually and as a team!