
It's just so stupid that you'll date men and even sleeps with them just to find if one of them is your true love, sorry but I kind of don't like it, I mean I don't really like it big, I feel bad for the future partner. He could've be your first but you've ruined the chance to give it to him. Dating them is okay, but sleeps around? It's a nah for me : )

That is so toxic. It’s ok to have multiple partners, and it’s ok to not have them. Plus, having experience isn’t a bad thing and honestly I don’t anyone who’s first time wasn’t awkward and ended up being with someone they stayed with (and not out of obligation). He’s still deserving of unconditional love and someone who treats him well. His partner obviously doesn’t mind, so why do you? Your value doesn’t diminish just bc you slept with multiple people before you settled down. That’s actually normal.

It's okay to have multiple partners???? Yep, having experience is not a bad thing but he's doing it because he's trying to find out something which is he's using his body and those men. His partner mind, he even said he's jealous because he already did those to someone else. If sleeping around is normal then to me it's not. I just don't like it and that's my opinion.

You don’t have to like sleeping around if it’s not for you. But that isn’t the case for everybody. But what’s wrong is you judging others for doing so. Everyone has their own process in life and their own experiences and how they deal with them. That doesn’t make them any less worthy of love or having respectful partners.
And his partner was saying the jealous thing as a horny BL line if he really minded he wouldn’t have said he could use the same 5 date rule or tried to court him so earnestly. Nor would he have basically proposed to him.
Also, having experience makes the sex better, and then when you’re in love even more so. And you can gain such experience from a few serious partners or multiple casual ones or you don’t have to gain that kind of experience at all. It’s all up to you and what you’re comfortable with. But what isn’t ok is judging others for their own experiences.

Well, I clearly understood what you're pointing out but it didn't change my mind, sorry. Well, we're in a fiction world, but I am so sensitive when it comes to that and I know i am not the only one and also because I believe that you only give yourself to the person you'll spend you the rest of your life with. And that's just me not liking it no matter what.

That’s ok if you believe that and you practice that for you. What’s not ok is to say others don’t deserve something or shame them because they didn’t practice that. Not everyone is going to believe the same things you do not live out life the same way. And as long as it’s safe and consensual then it’s ok.
**footnote: as Plakountas said, I didn’t say multiple at once, I did say in general, and Haji had a 5 date rule not one night stands (but even if he did there’s nothing wrong with that either as long as it’s safe, sane, and consensual)**
It’s important to talk about these things in regards to fictional characters so you can learn and grow from it and so that you won’t make others feel unsafe or unaccepted around you. The impact on fictional characters is obviously nonexistent rather than the impact these responses of yours would have on real people.
Just because it isn’t for you only means you don’t have to do it. Just don’t judge or shame others if it is for them.

Nah, not on real people though. I don't particularly like or hate haji, it's just his doing and that sleeping around thing. No need to talk it out since whenever I read something like this I'd just accept it and leaves heartbroken, just leaving it like that since that's what the author did his character and I could do nothing about it. I'd just move on and will forget about it but I'm not coming back
This was always chaotic and fun. I'm not used to the drama like this : ( you're making me sad little mo