
If ever you're in a position similar to Jiah's friend, I hope that you dont beat yourself too much for feeling insecure. In her case, writing is what completes her, its something that she can call her own, its like her identity. But Jiah's success felt like she lose her identity, having her efforts in vain infront of a pure talent. I am not a psychologist, or a psychiatrist, or even in a profesional field focusing on human mind and emotion, but as an individual, talking to you, human to human, I just want to tell you that feeling insecure is not a bad thing, its normal for you to feel that way. As human beings we are bound to feel all sorts of emotions, positive or negative. So what if you feel insecure, so what if you are jealous of your friend, so what if you hate your relatives. Its okay to feel negative emotions, what's bad is letting your negative emotion take over you, and letting it control you to harm others.
And I hope we dont shame too much on people who are jealous and insecure, because at the end of the day, its them who are affected too much by it, its them who are hurting more. Like they said, no one hates you more than you hate yourself. Notice how we tend to beat ourselves when we feel negative emotions? How we hate ourselves for feeling jealous of our friend for winning something because how we wish we also won something. Ofcourse you are not jealous because they won, ofcourse you are happy, they are your friend and you support them in their success and winnings in life, what we are jealous about is the paid efforts, I put on the same efforts, so why? why isn't it the same for me, I also put my everything on it, so why am I not winning?
A little reminder to ourselves:
Feel your emotions, don't tolerate it.
Let it hurt, don't let it grow.
Let it go, don't lock it inside.
Use those emotions to fuel your motivation to do better. And ofcourse, to see your own winnings in life, DON'T FOCUS TOO MUCH ON WHAT OTHERS HAVE. INSTEAD, USE THAT ENERGY TO FOCUS ON WHAT YOU HAVE, AND BELIEVE IN YOURSELF.
Ps: I'm actually writing this to tell this to myself. After all, the advice we give to others, are the advice we wished we heard.
Whut? Ew nooo. It should have been after 10 chapters