Being Gay

I started reading BL in middle school because I found myself more interested in male characters and guys in general. When I was younger, it was more the quiet exploration of whom fit me, and frankly no girl really interested me. I found myself more interested in the guys. To be honest, BL has influenced some of my life. For example, I would read ......   reply

Lesbian. I don't like overly effeminized guys, they are basically bitchy girls with poorly attached, anatomically incorrect penises. Kind of stupid seme-uke divide really bothers me. I'm straight but gay only for you theme, rapes that are justified because someone just wants to do it and the other party after being raped once or several times will......   2 reply

As trans and bisexual, I don’t really think that BL has affected me or ‘helped’ me with my identity in any way. BL will always be BL, meaningly a story for you to enjoy reading. The majority of bl does not apply to reality, (meaning, I might read rapey bl, but that doesnt mean I would want myself or anyone in real life in a similar situation)......   reply

I think it helped me when I was a budding pansexual in high school. But as I've gotten older my relationship with BL has gotten more complicated - there are some very troubling themes in BL that come up over and over again that I feel like can stereotype/belittle the LGBT community in bad ways. The rapey "I'm touching you against your will but yo......   2 reply

It doesn't effect me. In my eyes, I'm simply reading a dramatic story. I certainly can't speak for others, but if works of fiction, like BL and yaoi effect your preferences/sexual identity in any way, you need to reevaluate yourself. Although, I can say that it does put me off a little bit when in certain mangas/manwhas/manhuas, the concept and/or ......   reply

im asexual and a/homo - romantic i wish i could see more emotion based relationships tbh... at some point, i was convinced that anything anyone looks for in a relationship will only be sex. also, i grew up in a super conservative country and never knew lgbt+'s existance till i was 12. in that way, im thankful to bl for opening this door in my life......   reply

I'm pan and genderqueer and I have a very... complicated relationship with BL I had some very unsavoury run ins with fujoshis when I was younger and any BL I saw, was cringey, rapey, abusive, gross and so so fake. It made me hate myself more and deepened my internalised homophobia. It really pushed back me discovering my sexuality and gender iden......   reply

The only gay (well bi but he says he leans more to the gay side) guy I know is just like your average guy. I completely understand that yaoi is just a fantasy, and in real life people don't exist like that. (Also his cheating bf was 2-timing him rip)   1 reply

you... probably shouldn't ask people those sorts of questions unless you already talk about sex with them think "would I ask this of a straight person?" if the answer is no then don't. You don't need to know how your friends have sex... thats kind of weird most yaoi and yuri were written by and for straight people and are incredibly unrealistic.......   1 reply

that really sucks :/ I'm sorry you had to go through that My mum was dissing my boyfriend who I've been with for three years and then we started arguing about that fact that I never want to have biological children and in the heat of it all I yelled "well if I wasn't with (partners name) I'd probably be with a girl and then you'd have no chance of......   3 reply