Good BDSM manga

OK, so I want to rant a bit...
Why is it the case, that most BDSM manga has rape, CP, no safewords, EXTREMELY unsafe practices, and blatant manipulation. Of course, many are good or have these flaws in small doses, but SERIOUSLY. If you just but BDSM or Bondage as a tag first places are some good but after that... Funny enough, one of the more realistic tags is "rape play". There at least most entries explore consensual roleplay. I 100% know there is a kink for all of this, but please, there is sometimes just plain rape, kidnapping, or stalkhome syndrome without an established scene under these tags. It can many times ruin the whole evening. I know that it is just fiction, but it still has an impact. I have seen many people just turned off of the BDSM topic because these kinds of things are their first impressions.