being called a fetishizer

girls/nonbinaries that read yaoi/shonen-ai. i'm sure you've dealt with people calling you fetishizers online. even when i prefer hella innocent, fluffy, wholesome shonen-ai's and never associate BL with real life, I still have to deal with this. for those who read the more raunchy content, i'm sure it's worse. do you agree with this critique, and if not, how do you respond to it?