why do ppl do this

I wish i could make this about how male centered some of the people on this site are, but in the case I'm talking about, both parties are men so i really cant...

Why are so many people on here prone to blaming the mc (specifically the bottoms) in a yaoi when they're raped, assaulted, or wronged in any other way? Not just that, but if both parties are wrong in any way, the blame somehow always shifts to lie fully on the uke in the story .

My friend and I had a conversation about this recently and it's just been on my mind more and more lately the more I start to read comments—the seme is somehow never wrong in a scenario just because theyre the 'yearner' archetype. I hate to break it to you guys, but just because someone is in love doesnt mean they cant be evil or do stupid shit... I genuinely need to know how some people end up thinking this way

idk if this posted before sorry if it did x

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Tomfookinshelby 24 03,2026

This is so real, it's also rooted deeply into internalized misogyny. But when I try to bring it up, I got called a woke whore (bruvh). Plus they all so agressive though. Using the word bitch and whore like there's no tomorrow like relax girl.. 3 reply

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eggsins 23 03,2026

I have a non-yaoi take on this (so sorry if it’s off topic but I feel like it relates to people on this site being male-centered) A lot of people on here complain if there’s even one normal girl that interacts with a male mc of a fantasy action manwha (shit like : why is she blushing/ so useless/ better be no romance) And for a while I thought...... 4 reply

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けい 24 03,2026

Another layer is how people consume stories emotionally, not critically. If a seme is framed as attractive, dominant, or “tragically in love,” readers start from a place of sympathy and work backwards to justify everything he does. It’s basically character favoritism disguised as interpretation. Meanwhile, the uke’s role often revolves arou...... reply

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Megatrons chair 24 03,2026

because they never fully understand the victim. the typical "why didn't they just leave and call someone for help, it's so simple" no it doesn't you ignorant dumbass. the abuser always target the vulnerable ppl and it's more complicated than physical/sexual abuse. ppl's ignorant thinking is the reason why victims never spoke out and also another re...... reply

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Shh 24 03,2026

have yall ever seen a wetsand comment section?? If people arent fighting abt the love triangle, theyre busy demolishing ian reply

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Toughgamerboi 24 03,2026

I feel like this reflects more into our society considering how alot of people don't take male sa seriously and would often shift the blame onto the victims rather than the ones perpetuating the assault. 1 reply

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Sureee 24 03,2026

Tbh I feel like it’s bc so many people fetishise yaoi, like they don’t look for actually plot or love story, some people genuinely get their rocks off to men getting raped imo. That’s why I see it, like the only thing I think when I see a rapeplot is I hope the uke gets revenge or I can’t read this trash anymore, but I read the comments and...... reply

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CUKAI$ 24 03,2026

This place is full of seme unfortunately reply

24 03,2026

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