i always get told to be quieter in public

like i always get told to be quieter cause its embarrassing that im talking but im just a girl who left the nest after being suppressed like ik if im being too loud i always match my voice to the suroundings but it just hurts me that people think i should be embarrassed just for expressing myself but also like i showed my tired face today after told to be quieter because a was talking about a design flaw of a calendar but i also just think that i should say smthing back but its kinda hard yo do that because i dont want to hurt or cause misunderstanding with others cause i dwell on it