Girlies HELP!!

Sooo, I had this awkward situation the other day.

My bestie got a boyfriend (he’s not local, he’s from another country), and she introduced him to us. We were mostly chatting together, and my friend started talking about her cheating ex. I have a weird relationship with men—I usually say I don’t fw them. Also, jokes about men (and literally anything) aren’t new for us; we joke like that all the time.

While we were talking, I said, “That’s why I hate men,” and my bestie’s boyfriend got offended. It wasn’t targeted at him—it was about my friend’s cheating ex and, in general, about creeps. Then my bestie asked me, “Can you not say that anymore?”

Of course, I explained that it wasn’t targeted and that it’s just my opinion. I mean, when you’re throwing slurs around every day as a joke, you shouldn’t get offended by something like that. He said he just wanted to make a good impression, which is understandable, but it still wasn’t directed at him.

Now I feel awkward. I apologized (which I normally wouldn’t do—I don’t think it’s that deep), but still… I don’t know. When you spend most of your time around racist memes and stuff like that, it’s hard to believe something like this would be that offensive to you.