Love advice ? in ‘26
Made friends with this guy while studying abroad. We laugh a lot, make a lot of dumb jokes, a lot of teasing. Friends sus that he likes me. Lowk ignored it, but after hanging out at a picnic one time I started to believe it, and I couldn’t repress my feelings.
Here’s my problem, never liked a guy before, don’t want to date (especially since we live in diff places ) (1) but lowk want to tell him in a letter I’ll give him then ghost when I go back to my country.
(2) Or should I keep the crush, secretly write him a letter I’m never gonna send, go back to my country then ghost him?
(3) I can just squash the feeling I’ve done it before but it’s hard cause we hang out all the time. Then go back to my country and ghost.
So 1, 2, or 3?
im genuinely confused why you would ghost the guy like if you don't want to date then. that's fine it's normal but pls act like an adult ?
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10 05,2026
3. Just squash the feelings, there are only 2 scenarios if you confess 1 is if possible he likes you back. You'll be getting yourself into something you don't want, or getting rejected which you'll kinda be sad about. 2. Sounds good tho, it can lift some heavy weights off your shoulders rather than you fully surprising it.
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10 05,2026
Or you can just stay friends? Would long distance be a problem then too? People overrate romantic relationships tbh. If you really get along that well with him, why do you have to be in a romantic relationship to be in touch? Maybe your/his romantic feelings would fade away with time replaced by a solid friendship you'd both be grateful for.
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10 05,2026
Number 1 cause truly what do you have to loose. Your going back home, and your most likely never gonna see him again. If he says he doesn't feel the same way, yeah it's gonna suck but at least you told him. Because if you don't end up telling him you probably will end up regretting it, thinking what it could've been years later. Also don't do the l......
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10 05,2026
Instead of ghosting, you can tell him your feelings and your boundaries of not wanting to enter a relationship with him. Another thing as well is that you're unsure if he even likes you. A conversation where you're honest about your feelings and asking if he feels the same way about you. If he feels the same way, you can explain that you don't want......
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10 05,2026
(1) just seems like u want to play with the person's feelings since u plan on giving them a confession letter and then ghost them?? It will leave them with a bad impression of you and maybe give the poor guy a broken heart.
This just looks like u want to confess for the love of the game. Instead,
(4) Find out if he truly likes u, confess, tell h......
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10 05,2026
i see you plan on ghosting him anyway in all 3 of your options so might as well just never confess. about what can you do with your feelings, however, writing a letter then burn it without actually sending it to him would be the best imo. at least you'd be able to get it out of your system in some way instead of just squashing it down. or if you'd ......
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10 05,2026
Tell him your feelings (who cares about his response you'll abandon him and all consequences to this confession soon and leave the country also he should be flattered you’re humbling yourself by becoming a “boy lover” and he’s your first step towards the dark side)
If hes down get some, lather in lust together but be clear that it’ll be a......
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10 05,2026
