Y’know sometimes friend can also break your heart. It’s hurt more than a break up.
Yeah, agree.
Ikr. I thought it gonna feel like being pushed by the wave but my whole world crumbling down. It was so hard to forget and the pain was unbearable. I cried almost every night because i felt so miserable. Never again i will put myself in those kind of pain. Its okay if i dont have best friend anymore.
I used to have a lot of bestfriends when I was young but as time went by, they keep disappearing from my sight one by one. We lost contact and if we ever meet again, we’ll probably walk pass each other like a stranger. our time we spent together is only temporary and it’s just so sad ;’) but I’m a grown-up now so I’m getting used to loneliness and not having anyone by my side or friends. I believe that if I keep making more memories with people, it’s going to stuck in my head like before. Unable to forget the memories that we make, unable to move on from the person who is already disappeared from your side. No, I don’t want to go through this kind of nightmare again. I’ll be fine on my own cuz that what life is supposed to be...
During my teens I always want to please my bestfriends even though its so obvious that they don't care a fuck. Now I'm an adult, I don't give a damn anymore. They can disappear whenever they want. My self respect is more valuable than they're fake smile. I'm not mad at them, I matured and got tired. Hehe
Im not that good in english
So do I, ngl but the more you grow up the more you easily get tired. Tired and exhausted ~ or even losing interest in things especially in living.
Yeah its suck because the memories keep tormenting and reminded what had been lost.
Tbh i lost my friend because they betrayed my trust. I should've seen it coming but i was in denial and keep trying to fix our broken friend ship. It was so one sided because i was to stupid to read between the line. I guess i wasnt as funny or out going like other person. She the one who betray my trust but she make it like it was my fault. Its almost destroy me because i thought she were the one who will stay in my life for a long time but she broke my trust and abandoned me.
I was never good at making friend since i was a child because people scared me. Its been years but it still hurting me.
Yeah. Im thankful that you found value in your life. Being a teenager just open up my old wound because we were so stupid and naive back then
Even now when im an adult, i just dont trust people anymore.
I’m also afraid of people. People these day are unexpected and cruel. You don’t know about their true color. And when you realize you spend your precious time on a wrong person it left you with many regrets. It’s also depressing, when you found out that your special person didn’t think the same way as you. You’re just like a normal person to them while they’re your special one.
I know right. And its make me feel stupid for some reason. Because u still miss them after going through all that. Like damm, i would take her back in a heartbeat if she ever apologizes to me. Thats how stupid i was but now i dont even let people close. If i found myself getting attach or felt happy slightly toward someone, i tend to push them away or hoping they will leave me so i can just get over it u know.
Tbh i dont think marrige even possible for me
Because i will expect that person to leave me sooner or later. Can u imagine that?
What the point of that if i just get miserable right?
We’re both the same. I like to distance myself from people not becuz I’m unfriendly. I choose to stay at home rather than going outside or meeting new people. Honestly, I don’t want to make friends or meet new people anymore. Moreover, I don’t think I’ll ever get married. Plus I’m aromantic and asexual I don’t attract to both genders and I’m also unattractive myself.
Dude. We really thinking about the same thing. Tbh i tried but it just feel like i wasted my precious time. Im busy enough with work to invested my time to someone uncertain.
But for me my family was pressuring me to find someone so i can get married
But where can i get someone that be okay if i didnt love him, doesnt share the same room and will stay out of my Business.
At this point of my life it really hard for me to try to love someone. So i gave up
That what we been telling ourself right? To justify being single we just settle to ourself that we are unattractive. But if that was your sexual orentation then i will respect it.
Beauty is subjective and depends on people perspective. Although i never met u,
I hope someday people will see your inner beauty and that you will gain confident in yourself.
I also dont think that im pretty but enough people already criticize and betitle me so i dont need the person inside the mirror to judge and bring me down to. Im still learning to love myself, to put myself above everyone else and be a little confident.
Yeah it’s nice learning to love yourself. For me I don’t think I can hahah
you might have the kind of depression that doesn't get better with time, but usually needs to be treated with meds. It can't hurt to check it out with a psychiatrist.
I'm going to assume you guys are pretty young. Saying these things about staying away from people to avoid getting hurt... do you realize that you're demonstrating a marked lack of resilience?
You're coming from a place most people either never get to or only get to late in life after many painful relationships.
If you're young and saying these extremely obvious signs of real problems, you should seek out helpful solutions. What you must absolutely not do is drop out of the human race and become a stay-home zombie. You'll miss out on life's greatest pleasures. The painful bits are worth it in light of the benefits of having and seeking human relationships. find another friend. there's plenty of candidates for this.
I hate sounding like I'm giving advice, but, man, there are too many "I'm not strong" statements here.
I’m 17 this year. So yeah you could say that I’m still young. Ik it’s a sign of depression too but I’m afraid to accept that I’m depressed Or people will hate me or saying that I’m dramatic. I’m suicidal, and have been attempted to end my life for countless time since I was young. I started to hate myself since 2015. It’s tough to love and care for somebody else when you don’t even know how to love yourself. So you see that’s why I’m not so good with people. I don’t really open up to people much nor wanting to meet new people. I’d rather shut myself in the dark room alone. I’ve always wanted to escape reality forever but unfortunately, I can only do it for temporary by reading BL and watching anime. I I feel much better by doing so. Reality is scary for me. I usually skip school becuz of that.
so, hey there. Is there any way you can get yourself to a psychiatrist? There may not be anything wrong with your attitude or personality. This could all just be brain chemistry, something that's not your fault. They're making some impressive new drugs to help people who have this illness called depression. It's serious. It doesn't mean you're dramatic, and if someone hates you for it, that's their problem, not yours. Honestly, I think BL and anime is a good escape, lol, and it produces massive amounts of dopamine, the feel-good drug your brain makes. Some people have brains that don't make enough of it at times.
Depression is the number one cause of suicide.
You might even be able to talk with a psychiatrist online or teleconference, which means you don't even have to leave your room. It has to be a psychiatrist because they're the only ones who can give you the right antidepressant drug. Imagine feeling a lot better and happier from getting an illness taken care of. This isn't your fault, you know..
Ahm I'm confused. What's there relationship to be upset for? They're bestfriends right?????