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Oh, that's not how I've seen it at all.
The first time she was under a false impression that she was hated, and was killed of by the church in a move to get more power before she could realize how much she meant to people.
So the second life is there so that she can get the happiness that was robbed form her the first time.
SHE thought she didn't do a good enough job, the remnants of her difficult and isolating life carry through into her fresh start, and she can overcome them.

how the author tries to blame a 16 year old girl for not being more open to children of her old husband when she was clearly !! struggling a lot without any help
why would she have to look back when climbing the stairs when it was all she knew to do!
like omg she wasnt perfect ?? so lets make her do that shit again?