Literally, when you lose your virginity at the most appropriate age (after 20), your hymen is thicker and consequently, when it breaks, it bleeds. I'd like to know from which 'girl power, science is a social construct, everything is a lie' magazine you're getting this stuff.
For the first time it’s not rare if it occurs more than once then yes there is a problem it’s normal and shouldn’t be anything to worry about since it’s their first time it’s not a rare site to see blood should the author have left that out most likely yes but they put it in anyways it’s definitely not rare or not normal at all
Bleeding can happen during smeggs. I personally broke my hymen during a hockey match BUT i have also bled even after being perfectly lubricated.
The hymen can tear just like your eyelid can tear - that doesn't make it normal.
Penetrative sex/toys/tampons are not supposed to cause bleeding or pain.
If that is happening, something is WRONG. "Go see a gynecologist" level wrong. It might be something simple, like lack of natural lubricant, or it might be something more serious like vaginismus, endometriosis, etc.
Literally what I was trying to say, just bcz tearing can happen during sex doesn't make it an okay thing
Yes and I get nosebleeds every month even though I'm careful and everything, still doesn't make it okay to be bleeding whenever you have smeggs
Look at the reply right on top of yours and it'll (respectfully) disprove several parts of your argument about the hymen with evidence. I did mention in my original reply that it is possible to bleed if you have a more narrow vaginal canal or if the partner's penis is on the larger size. The former is addressed by continuing sexual activity with a partner or toys and/or seeking medical assistance, while the latter is addressed by navigating sex with a well endowed partner in a way that is safe for both parties.
Even when taking those two instances into account, though, any type of bleeding during penetration indicates tear and damage within the vaginal canal. It happens, but it is by no means a normal part of a sexual act unless it is done purposefully with the informed and clear consent of both parties.
I am far more concerned about people thinking unintentional bodily harm is a normal part of sex than them freaking out about bleeding that can be explained from the points I have previously made. The way the original commenter and a couple of other people are disregarding this latest chapter by saying, "she's a virgin, so of course she's gonna bleed," tells me my concern is valid, as they already think bleeding during their first is not just a possibility, but a given.
Look at the reply right on top of yours and it'll (respectfully) disprove several parts of your argument about the hymen with evidence. I did mention in my original reply that it is possible to bleed if you have a more narrow vaginal canal or if the partner's penis is on the larger size. The former is addressed by continuing sexual activity with a partner or toys and/or seeking medical assistance, while the latter is addressed by navigating sex with a well endowed partner in a way that is safe for both parties.
Even when taking those two instances into account, though, any type of bleeding during penetration indicates tear and damage within the vaginal canal. It happens, but it is by no means a normal part of a sexual act unless it is done purposefully with the informed and clear consent of both parties.
I am far more concerned about people thinking unintentional bodily harm is a normal part of sex than them freaking out about bleeding that can be explained from the points I have previously made. The way the original commenter and a couple of other people are disregarding this latest chapter by saying, "she's a virgin, so of course she's gonna bleed," tells me my concern is valid, as they already think bleeding during their first is not just a possibility, but a given.
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC9306936/
Medical research.
During *puberty* the hymen thickens and becomes extremely stretchy. But as you age, the hymen thins out (still super stretchy).
If the hymen is not stretchy, or there's simply too much membrane, an OBGYN can snip it, and watch for other potential health issues.
No one deserves to suffer, even if it's a common experience.
Thank you for being one of the voices of reason in this comment section
I thought your replies made sense! ( ´;ﾟ;∀;ﾟ;)
Same to you!
Yes es it does loosen up but not as much as it would if the hymen has already broken. The hymen breaks at some point for majority of people. No matter how much you prep this is still the case. I know someone who just had to get SURGERY to cut their hymen bc it hurt no matter what, no matter the prep, because their hymen was too thick. Please do your research if you’re going to be chronically online
That's a myth, my dear
That's the point; the person who had surgery had a medical issue that a doctor fixed.
What if that person continued to suffer with pain and bleeding, because they thought it was normal?
They knew enough to recognize it was not a normal situation.
The basic thing about the hymen is that every woman's is different, and you are simply ignoring the experiences of millions of women because of an article that states that "not ALL women bleed"
I think the problem is that ppl don't know what a membrane is. It can vary on thickness and elasticity. Sometimes you bleed when the hymen is broken sometimes you do not. When bleeding we mean a few drops not a stream of blood. Depending on your anatomy you cannot even break the hymen without surgery. Also, your first time shouldn't involve a lot of pain because that can be a sign of either poor handling or an anatomy defect. So don't worry darling all you gotta do with your future partner is 1) be sure that it's consensual and 2) to communicate whether you bare
the pain or not. After all, sex can be done even without penetration and still feel very good (or even better) than traditional sex.
Hope it helped (≧∀≦)
You don’t need to see a gynecologist for it they will literally send you away cause it’s something normal also you aren’t sticking a huge dick in your eyelid so it’s a terrible comparison
I'm not ignoring their experiences, I'm acknowledging that due to the purity myth/whatever you'd like to call it, bleeding and pain is *normalized* when it shouldn't be.
A common experience isn't necessarily normal.
If someone causes abrasions (or bleeding) from overstretching their hymen, that's not necessarily bad, but it's also not (medically) normal.
If the woman (or girl) knows that sex/self pleasure should be painless, she can make adjustments.
There's so much nuance, and different circumstances for every person. But there's a difference between understanding women/afab people have a variety of experiences, and believing 100% that losing her virginity will be painful and bloody.
Are you being stupid on purpose..?
Y’all gotta be virgins cause obviously she’s going to bleed it’s her first time he should’ve done more to loosen her up but he’s a virgin as well so it’s obvious they wouldn’t know what to do but Richard my boy you need to know what stop means (๑•ㅂ•)و✧ (some of y’all need to look it up google is very helpful you know)