Unfortunately therapy doesn’t help every human being, I’ve tried years of it. Off and on meds, maybe it’s the therapist idk . I have read BL before I was SA’ed, I think my desires have always been there. But I realized I don’t want to be actually raped (when I was raped).
So I practice CNC with my only partner. I don’t do hookups, nothing else but one.
Bro I’m sorry these fucking sick weirdos are trying to litigate your coping mechanisms and put words in your mouth. They should honestly just *** because once you get to the threshold where you’re trying to browbeat a survivor for trying to heal, you’re better off as fertilizer.
This. I’m not doing CNC because I like rape. I’m doing it to feel in control, and my partner consents.
Even though many people try to deny it (even more when it comes to bl), fiction does impact our brain, our vision of the world and even our fetish
Knowing the society we live in, it's "understandable " (if i can use this term) to end up with such fantasy, even more when we see the number of stories coming more and more often with rape normalisation.
The hardest take is to understand it, and to know that it's not okay to feel like this. And you taking the initiative of seeing a therapist for it is a strength that a lot of people lack
It's literally studies and psychology.
You clearly need to stoo jerking yourself to rape content and start actually caring about rape, rape culture, psychology and how to heal and help victim.
When you're a victim of a culture (here rape culture) starting being an actor of it is nor a way to cope, nor a way to heal, nor a way to empower yourself.
Rapist are the only people benefiting from it. Not victims, not future victims
Educate yourself
"Bro I'm so sorry". Coming from a rape apologist is WILD
I'm done with them lmfao. They're all acting like being a victim gave you an immunity card to be a piece of shit and a rape apologist
Well, since you won’t apologize for diminishing their abuse I figured I might as well offer support.
Crazy how you started being pretend-nice after being so vicious to them, and still managing to downplay their struggles and coping. Abuser mentality.
“being a victim gave you an immunity card to be a piece of shit and a rape apologist“
Now this is victim blaming. Just leave us be, and go your way. You started this by responding very hostile. I’m not bothering anyone by reading this. You’re too harsh.
Thanks. Sick time.
You reacting this way speaks volume. Their is a diference between someone who actually want to listen and who admit what they are doing, and you who belive that your kink is more important that rape culture.
You using those girls abuse and coping (even though, as i said, it's not the good way to heal) to justify and defend your kink just prove my point. The only one benefiting from this myth is people like you
Ho go back to school you can’t even use the right form of “there”. Maybe you’ll learn to not fall into abusive patterns.
"Now this is victim blaming"... hmmm no ? I'm not blaming you for what happened to you and never will.
But you're also a human being, and victim or not, you're still responsible for your words and your participation on rape culture. It's not an immunity card
Just see how is siding with you : a girl who just admitted only having kinks about rape. Nothing more
Not I'm not going to respond anymore, you all clearly don't care.
I just hope you will grow out of it and heal. Because you deserve to heal, and you also deserve to understand how rape culture works, affects you, rapist, other victims, future victims and more
Sincerely, a victim of rape, child prostitution who will still fight against the rape culture that alowed what have been done to me, to you and others. Even though you're not ready to see it
Sad that you somehow think this fictional story written by a woman in a misogynistic country where only men are being abused somehow contributes to real rape but I guess there’s no accounting for brains. I wish you luck.
Leave people be. Bother your own or when you have kids. Goodbye.
(Maybe you’ll learn to not fall into abusive patterns.)
Ermmmmmmmmm maybe I didn't read most of the stuff yall were saying before, but I'm telling you, you're the biggest hypocrite??!???!
It kinda like sayin
(This keeps happening to you, so it must be partly your fault.”)
That’s victim blaming, whether intentional or not.
It shifts responsibility away from abusers and puts it on the person who was hurt, which is unfair and damaging.
What the fuck are you even talking about lol. If you people saw a rape victim acting the way you didn’t like irl you would legitimately start crying and puking in their face.
Huh? Wait huh? So when u said
Maybe you’ll learn to not fall into abusive patterns.
What did you mean unless you coping a message from somewhere can u kindly elaborate?
Let it be i swear. They're acting as if i was the horrible person here, but while i tried to explain how rape culture works and lure victims into thinking that normalisation of rape heal them, while i clearly said that i wished them to heal and find a proper way to do so, without damaging themselves on the way, the only thing they had to say after i stated that i am myself a rape survivor and a victim of child prostitution is "let me be" and "you're missing some braincells"
Says everything we need to know about them
What's up with the comment section? Why did someone insinuate that the author's a criminal for drawing porn, what happened there
Edit: It was getting ridiculous and absolutely nowhere. Having one correct point but a bad attitude is never gonna change people's views. This is a nonsense noncon yaoi. Most of its readers are either women or AFAB, as in, people who are prone to be victims of assault. Calling people rape apologist is not going to get your point across.
A rape survivor calling another rape survivor a rape apologist does nothing to anyone. It's even more boggling because you clearly said that cnc is fine because it does have consent. What does that mean for those who post cnc content on the internet? Are they also perpetuating rape culture by performing cnc?
Hypothetical question. Don't answer. It's tiring watching you fight a pointless battle.