It's honestly not very hard to understand him. Woowon is not okay mentally and that is something that he is deeply struggling with. Have you ever been through some fucked up shit, to the point of wanting to off yourself? When you get to that point in your life, it's very hard to accept help, feeling like a burden eats at you. Seoan loves him and is fortunate to be able to afford to help pay off his debt, but to Woowon, that makes him feel even more useless. It's hard to adjust to dating someone who is more financially stable than you. Woowon feel like he's not good enough for Seoan. And honestly, staying with someone when you're in a bad mental place is not always fair. If Woowon wants to get better, feeling like he is holding Seoan back is not going to be good for their relationship. It doesn't mean that Woowon doesn't love him, or is selfish. Sometimes you have to make hard choices and I hope Woowon gets better mentally. I've seen spoilers about the break up. Ugh I cant wait to read it Seoan is an Angel and they both deserve to be in good mental places to have a beautiful relationship.
listen girl, i have been through more fucked up shits than woowon. i lost one of my parents when i was a teenager as well. we both have similar financial hardships too. in fact my life is more messed up than his. please dont be so insensitive to question someone like this and compare a fictional character with a real life human being. but even then woowon at least has someone who genuinely loves him and wants to be his emotional pillar all the time. seoan wants him to heal too but woowon has low self-esteem and he thinks he needs to be at the same level as seoan to carry on their relationship. its very selfish to leave someone like this and tell them to wait when he knows the other person loves him to bits. he is just making it hard for himself and harder for seoan. he can heal regardless of where he is if he wished to. and taking a break doesnt mean a person needs to completely vanish. i went through the exact same struggle as him so i know he wants to isolate himself but that only hurts the people that genuinely loves you.. the best way to heal and accept one's own self is to come in terms with the reality.. he needs to accept the fact that seoan is financially capable to take his burdens and its not shameful if your lover wants to take off that burden it only means they want you to heal and get it over with.. he is also super insecure.. he needs to move on from the past and think about his future instead of overthinking it.. i havent seen any other lover as supportive as seoan ...i dont know how woowon will heal by himself.. he's only gonna suffer more..
It takes years to heal. I have a friend who are like that, when they have somebody who genuinely love that person but that person doesn't realize or understand anything at this point. Thinking their life is not worth it and counties endless of suffering. In reality, every person are different, own suffering and ways to cope that pain even if it took weeks, months, or years but if can't, they will continue to suffer until they d!e and never to accept this. It not that simple.
Something good thing to learn in life is that everyone is different and heals in completely different ways. I'm glad you were able to heal from your journey but you can't expect everyone to follow the path you personally took. You also can't force someone to mentally be okay nor accept things because you personally believe that's the best way. Woowon will find his own path to heal
I don't understand woowon at all. This whole breakup thing was not necessary because he could have gotten better with seoan's help.. but no ... And considering seoan coming from a rich prestigious family, he needs to maintain some sort of formalities. I don't think woowon understands that. He feels small because he's nothing compared to seoan but thats not how love works.. seoan loves him despite his societal standing... He's only breaking seoan's heart like this and making things difficult for himself, nothing else.