I don't understand woowon at all. This whole breakup thing was not necessary because he co...

It's honestly not very hard to understand him. Woowon is not okay mentally and that is something that he is deeply struggling with. Have you ever been through some fucked up shit, to the point of wanting to off yourself? When you get to that point in your life, it's very hard to accept help, feeling like a burden eats at you. Seoan loves him and is fortunate to be able to afford to help pay off his debt, but to Woowon, that makes him feel even more useless. It's hard to adjust to dating someone who is more financially stable than you. Woowon feel like he's not good enough for Seoan. And honestly, staying with someone when you're in a bad mental place is not always fair. If Woowon wants to get better, feeling like he is holding Seoan back is not going to be good for their relationship. It doesn't mean that Woowon doesn't love him, or is selfish. Sometimes you have to make hard choices and I hope Woowon gets better mentally. I've seen spoilers about the break up. Ugh I cant wait to read it Seoan is an Angel and they both deserve to be in good mental places to have a beautiful relationship.

listen girl, i have been through more fucked up shits than woowon. i lost one of my parents when i was a teenager as well. we both have similar financial hardships too. in fact my life is more messed up than his. please dont be so insensitive to question someone like this and compare a fictional character with a real life human being. but even then woowon at least has someone who genuinely loves him and wants to be his emotional pillar all the time. seoan wants him to heal too but woowon has low self-esteem and he thinks he needs to be at the same level as seoan to carry on their relationship. its very selfish to leave someone like this and tell them to wait when he knows the other person loves him to bits. he is just making it hard for himself and harder for seoan. he can heal regardless of where he is if he wished to. and taking a break doesnt mean a person needs to completely vanish. i went through the exact same struggle as him so i know he wants to isolate himself but that only hurts the people that genuinely loves you.. the best way to heal and accept one's own self is to come in terms with the reality.. he needs to accept the fact that seoan is financially capable to take his burdens and its not shameful if your lover wants to take off that burden it only means they want you to heal and get it over with.. he is also super insecure.. he needs to move on from the past and think about his future instead of overthinking it.. i havent seen any other lover as supportive as seoan ...i dont know how woowon will heal by himself.. he's only gonna suffer more..

It takes years to heal. I have a friend who are like that, when they have somebody who genuinely love that person but that person doesn't realize or understand anything at this point. Thinking their life is not worth it and counties endless of suffering. In reality, every person are different, own suffering and ways to cope that pain even if it took weeks, months, or years but if can't, they will continue to suffer until they d!e and never to accept this. It not that simple.

Something good thing to learn in life is that everyone is different and heals in completely different ways. I'm glad you were able to heal from your journey but you can't expect everyone to follow the path you personally took. You also can't force someone to mentally be okay nor accept things because you personally believe that's the best way. Woowon will find his own path to heal

ppl deal with things differently. just bc you don’t understand it doesn’t mean it’s also not right. you can handle things a certain way, process them, etc. while others can handle it differently. peoples feelings aren’t linear, it’s never going to be similar. but you can be open minded to see why this character might be acting the way they are from the context of the chs.

I don't think the person you were replying to was particularly offensive or implying that nothing bad had happened to you, I think they were just saying : "have you? Because this is a common response to grief". I lost one of my parents too when I was a teenager and I found it really hard to even tell people because I didn't want people to think lowly of me or take pity on me. Everyone is different

Moral of the story: Try not to compare your personal struggle with others and how they cope cuz each and everyone of us is built different (=・ω・=)

Excuse me? I only brought it up because the other commenter said "have i ever went through something so awful to the point i wanted to off myself"... Thats why i said I understand woowon's self isolation urges.. and put my perspective on what could have been better.. im not trying to put his struggles down to brighten up mine? It only came up because the commenter explicitly implied it.

This is not a response to grief. if you don't personally know the other person or what they went through in life you can't ask something like this... its insanely offensive .. and people that goes through things like this tends to hide their sufferings the most because they don't want other's sympathies..

I never said he has to be strong and follow my path.. i only brought it up because the other commenter said whether I ever felt like him.. i didn't come here to put my sob stories on a site to make other's struggles seem less... I only expressed my perspective on the situation.. I'm not even forcing my views on anyone.. i only see no point in putting one's own self through more sufferings and thats all i expressed .

But you also explicitly said that "in fact my life is more messed up than his". Nevertheless, I dont want to make this into full on discourse but I hope you understand that its valid for Woowoon to feel that way (despite seoans never ending support) and its also okay that you dont understand woowons perspective cuz you have your own. But take this as a grain of salt, the perfect ingredient for toxic relationship is emotional/ mental instability. Wouldnt it be unfair for seo an to technically "fix" woowon? I think seo an also deserve someone capable of carrying himself you know? And the first thing woowon should do is to fix himself and he cant do that if hes within seo an's vicinity (like what ive said earlier, diff people meaning diff coping mechanism = leaving the relationship he dont want to ruin just because of one's own insecurity)


(Those are rhetorical questions, you dont need to answer them)

And please dont take this personally, if its hard or frustrating for you, take some time off, I meant no harm

Exactly i said that because the commenter asked whether i ever felt like him to the point of offing myself, this is not something you say to random strangers not knowing what they might have went through. Thats why i said "my life is more messed up than his" so she understands that woowon's feelings are not getting invalided by me rather i understand his pain..because the commenter was comparing woowon's mental stability with mine.. but then i wrote what i perceive to be a better solution..its just my perception and i never said woowon needs to follow that.. it just doesn't sit right with me if someone on the other side is kept hanging just because I can't sort out my life.. and telling them to wait is another burdensome thing and im against it... Thats all..
Its funny how i can't even express my own perspective before someone comes at me with a statement like " whether i ever felt like offing myself" ... Even without going as far as self harm, all depressed people goes through the same mental pain, some are too scared to off themselves but that doesn't mean their pain is any less than people that can go as far as offing themselves...