Bro, seriously, your reading comprehension is wild. No one said they refused to take care of their sick family member, they did. And it was hard, even traumatizing. Nobody wants their loved ones to get sick. We’re sharing our experiences because you’re acting like it’s easy, like taking care of a sick husband and a baby is no big deal, or that “just moving abroad together” is some simple fix.
He made a choice, and his reasons make sense, they’re realistic. Leaving his loved ones wasn’t easy. Facing his illness alone wasn’t easy. It took him years to get his memories back. That doesn’t make him evil. He suffered too. And when he remembered, he still came back, even knowing his son would hate him and his wife was gone.
And yet here you are, turning him into some kind of villain just because his decision doesn’t fit your fantasy version of loyalty.
It is one of the hardest things in the world and more so the whole migration process can take YEARS and how in the world is she supposed to live there without anybody's help genius?? Do you really think migration is that EASY ?
Who will allow her to work in such a short notice she wouldn't even be able to get permanent citizenship like that
Or maybe hear me out WE EMPATHISE WITH HIS CIRCUMSTANCES AND UNDERSTAND WHY HE DID WHAT HE DID the author was portraying a realistic event people like you won't understand that because you love living in your la la land like bffr
prob ragebaiting
Some of you do not only lack a functioning brain but you also don’t have any soul. It’s like you didn’t even read the chapter to understand it but only read it to criticize it. How can he be a deadbeat father when he didn’t even know he was a father? He clearly said he lost his memories for close to our even up to 40 years, and only started to remember some things bit by bit until a year ago, and then he started to do his own research before coming to look for his son, and you are calling a deadbeat. Do you even know the true meaning of that word? You’re a fool.
do you guys read what you write? MIGRATION?! Dude this is a FICTIONAL STORY.
If the author wants him to jump to freaking mars to have his treatment he would. WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT.
I didnt say it's easy I said taking care of a sick family members is normal, we're all going to get sick at some point, either by getting old or sickness. But people out here are really acting like his choice was the only logical answer instead of a selfish one.
Tho after reading how people talk about their sick family members and how much they resent taking care of them i can see how they think he's in the right.
And im sorry but comments like this have no justification:
"their existence will literally hold you down" (talking about their experience taking care of an ill family member)
"I would never choose to burden my loved ones if given the chance." (I guess they think their loved one CHOOSE to be a freaking burden)
"I would kms if i was him" (nice try. Just because you think you're been self loathing doesnt chage the fact the message is "people that get sick should kill themselves.")
I didnt turn him into a villain, i said he's a coward and i'm not going to change my mind.
I hate the fact that he's going to experience the fruit of HER LABOUR, like seen his son as an adult with the family he's creating for himself, when all he did is leave.
If you read my replies, i did accept he's not a deadbeat father for the reasons you mentioned, and changed it to just a trash person in general.
I understand why he did it, i just so happen to think that makes him a trash human been.
Yeah he's realistic, and realistic people can make selfish, bad or reprimendable choices. You guys equate realistic with irreproachable. Like just because he's a realistic character i'm not allowed to dislike him or his choices.
You guys are ok with his actions? good for you, i literally dont give a fuck, im not trying to change a single one of you guy's opinion. I'm only responding cause this is my comment so i assume if you're responding TO ME is cause you want to have a discussion, other than that i dont care if he's your favorite character and think he cant do no wrong.
You’re missing the point completely. He didn’t leave because he was selfish, he left because he was dying. He faced a terminal diagnosis and a dangerous surgery alone. That’s not cowardice, that’s someone trying to protect the people he loves from the pain of watching him fade away.
Walking away knowing everyone would hate him takes a different kind of courage. It’s easier to stay and get comfort, it’s much harder to leave everything behind and bear the loneliness alone.
So no, he’s not reaping “the fruit of her labour.” He’s carrying the weight of what he lost , his family, his wife, his chance to live after losing his memories. That’s not something to envy, that’s tragedy.
And for the million time, other people get diagnosed too and they dont abandon their family/ loved ones. He decided his illness meant he was going to leave. You can say he's trying to protect her, i call that condescending and cowardness. Specially cause it's not like the alternative wan't going to hurt her anyways, he choose the "hurt" more convenient TO HIM.
"It’s easier to stay and get comfort, it’s much harder to leave everything behind and bear the loneliness alone." I disagree, staying and actually confront things head on is always going to require more courage than hidding.
He's going to benefit for the son she raised, and the effort SHE PUT into her family. And a tragedy? Sure his life sucked, but he got a second chance: a son willing to listen to his side of the story and im sure in the future, he'll get to be part of his family, thats far from my definition of tragedy.
Being abandoned by your bf and having to raise a child alone is a tragedy.
Dying and making your kid an orphan cause he doesnt have a dad is a tragedy.
Nah bitch you're still a deadbeat father and should have died idgaf