I feel for the dad but

Soíreen October 22, 2025 10:08 pm

It's selfish.. just selfish to leave without any clarity and some is still stuck at the memory lane

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    runfile October 22, 2025 10:24 pm

    can u explain what the selfish part abt this is? no offense pls im just curious.

    Matschen October 22, 2025 10:47 pm
    can u explain what the selfish part abt this is? no offense pls im just curious. runfile

    I do kind of agree. At least leave some kind of explanation, like a letter.
    Leaving without any explanation could leave have left the mom wondering if it was her fault for the rest of her life. And that is kind of cruel. ^^

    totoro October 23, 2025 12:34 am

    idk if i knew the guy im in love with had a brain tumor and that he is going to have to go through this painful somewhere without me i think I'd suffer a lot more than if i was left behind thinking he betrayed me. not to mention that she was already pregnant, and would have to deal with theo's cancer and haebom, so all in all, it was for the best imo it was definitely a cruel decision but I'm not sure about selfish

    jolene October 23, 2025 2:11 am
    idk if i knew the guy im in love with had a brain tumor and that he is going to have to go through this painful somewhere without me i think I'd suffer a lot more than if i was left behind thinking he betrayed ... totoro

    i agree. it could be both a selfish and selfless decision. i just couldn't imagine what she would've been through if she had to deal with a husband with amnesia and a kid T_T true, it might've been really hard for haebeom's mother to be the only parent to haebeom (being the only provider + the lack if clarification + probably dealing w the rumors that surrounded the countryplace ), but I think it would've been worse if the guy stayed. being pregnant and having to take care of your sick husband who is on the verge of dying is a heavy task.

    Matschen October 23, 2025 7:40 am
    idk if i knew the guy im in love with had a brain tumor and that he is going to have to go through this painful somewhere without me i think I'd suffer a lot more than if i was left behind thinking he betrayed ... totoro

    It’s not like the only two options are „stay and suffer through the cancer together“ or „leave without any explanation“. He could have left and still given her some kind of explanation. It could have been vague or a lie. But some form of „I love you, I had no choice but to leave, I didn’t want to burden you with my problem“ but worded nicer. ^^

    totoro October 23, 2025 11:49 am
    It’s not like the only two options are „stay and suffer through the cancer together“ or „leave without any explanation“. He could have left and still given her some kind of explanation. It could have ... Matschen

    I know, I'm just saying I'm not sure if an explanation would be better. Leaving her behind with her knowing he was sick, thinking all the time whether he was alive or dead, is much worse than cleanly cutting off contact. Well, I know which of the two situations would hurt me more at long term.

    runfile October 23, 2025 2:36 pm
    I do kind of agree. At least leave some kind of explanation, like a letter. Leaving without any explanation could leave have left the mom wondering if it was her fault for the rest of her life. And that is kind... Matschen

    ohhhh yeah kinda true i get it. thank youu

    Soíreen October 23, 2025 3:06 pm
    idk if i knew the guy im in love with had a brain tumor and that he is going to have to go through this painful somewhere without me i think I'd suffer a lot more than if i was left behind thinking he betrayed ... totoro

    Don't forget that she died thinking he betrayed her... So yeah unless someone can bring the dead back and then help her find her closure idk what will so yea he's selfish

    Soíreen October 23, 2025 3:07 pm
    idk if i knew the guy im in love with had a brain tumor and that he is going to have to go through this painful somewhere without me i think I'd suffer a lot more than if i was left behind thinking he betrayed ... totoro

    And don't forget the decision the dad took was ultimately led both of them.. an unhappy and yearning life.. so yea

    Soíreen October 23, 2025 3:09 pm
    And don't forget the decision the dad took was ultimately led both of them.. an unhappy and yearning life.. so yea Soíreen

    And if people still be like.. but he had no choice what ever stfu.... I know it's hard but.. someone also have life beside them

    totoro October 23, 2025 5:00 pm
    And if people still be like.. but he had no choice what ever stfu.... I know it's hard but.. someone also have life beside them Soíreen

    idk i feel like you guys are projecting a little too much and struggling to think about this like adults but thats just my personal opinion. So whatever!

    runfile October 23, 2025 5:34 pm
    idk i feel like you guys are projecting a little too much and struggling to think about this like adults but thats just my personal opinion. So whatever! totoro

    i agree with you.

    Matschen October 23, 2025 8:46 pm
    idk i feel like you guys are projecting a little too much and struggling to think about this like adults but thats just my personal opinion. So whatever! totoro

    What do you think an adult would do in that situation?