I feel for the dad but

can u explain what the selfish part abt this is? no offense pls im just curious.

I do kind of agree. At least leave some kind of explanation, like a letter.
Leaving without any explanation could leave have left the mom wondering if it was her fault for the rest of her life. And that is kind of cruel. ^^

idk if i knew the guy im in love with had a brain tumor and that he is going to have to go through this painful somewhere without me i think I'd suffer a lot more than if i was left behind thinking he betrayed me. not to mention that she was already pregnant, and would have to deal with theo's cancer and haebom, so all in all, it was for the best imo it was definitely a cruel decision but I'm not sure about selfish

i agree. it could be both a selfish and selfless decision. i just couldn't imagine what she would've been through if she had to deal with a husband with amnesia and a kid T_T true, it might've been really hard for haebeom's mother to be the only parent to haebeom (being the only provider + the lack if clarification + probably dealing w the rumors that surrounded the countryplace ), but I think it would've been worse if the guy stayed. being pregnant and having to take care of your sick husband who is on the verge of dying is a heavy task.

It’s not like the only two options are „stay and suffer through the cancer together“ or „leave without any explanation“. He could have left and still given her some kind of explanation. It could have been vague or a lie. But some form of „I love you, I had no choice but to leave, I didn’t want to burden you with my problem“ but worded nicer. ^^

I know, I'm just saying I'm not sure if an explanation would be better. Leaving her behind with her knowing he was sick, thinking all the time whether he was alive or dead, is much worse than cleanly cutting off contact. Well, I know which of the two situations would hurt me more at long term.

ohhhh yeah kinda true i get it. thank youu

Don't forget that she died thinking he betrayed her... So yeah unless someone can bring the dead back and then help her find her closure idk what will so yea he's selfish

And don't forget the decision the dad took was ultimately led both of them.. an unhappy and yearning life.. so yea

And if people still be like.. but he had no choice what ever stfu.... I know it's hard but.. someone also have life beside them

idk i feel like you guys are projecting a little too much and struggling to think about this like adults but thats just my personal opinion. So whatever!

i agree with you.

What do you think an adult would do in that situation?

You can read my previous replies, if you want to know.

Ohh, sorry, somehow I didn’t read your username. I am dumb.
But I still stand by my comment. Any sort of explanation is better than no comment at all.
If there is someone you love you will support them through things like sickness and memory loss too. And I am not necessarily saying this out of idealism and more so out of personal experience.
The „what if“ also stands strong here. If he had told her and then gotten the surgery, she might have reached out to him after and they could have gotten back together.

It's not me protecting him.. it's me being practical, if i was left alone with a baby in my womb and my love of my live goes somewhere without my reach.. how is a person let alone a soon to be mother would react seesh