It may not be a big deal for YOU. But it is for juheon. I didn't blame Dohu for not understand his own emotion or juheon's feelings, but he needs to own up & learn his mistakes. YOU wouldn't call it betrayal bc it wasn't you who has the trauma. Yes, it can be talked through but the problem is, Dohu didn't/ can't understand his emotion enough to talk it through. Juheon were already ready enough 4yrs ago, but Dohu didn't bc he didn't understand what he felt. Juheon came to him 4yrs ago crying but he only went silent & didn't say anything. The point is NOW, Juheon no longer wants to listen bc he already lost his trust in Dohu, & Dohu needs to make sure his feelings come across juheon sincerely . None of his current action felt sincere, he only talked honest & then, sarcastic words. Like, can't you see how confused & annoyed juheon this whole time.
Juheon has his own shortcomings too lmao ngl. I hate blaming both when we know their own problems. but now, dohu needs to learn how to understand his emotion & juheon needs to learn how to open his heart
The betrayal was Dohu using him for his own benefits but never came clear with him. He had all the time in their relationship. Started dating without love is normal but started dating with one-sided benefits & didn't come clean after u realized their importance & made them know it not from your mouth but from others is disrespectful. Especially when you don't even give them a good reasoning after u got exposed & apologize only when they demands it are also disrespectful. Juheon's feelings are valid & his reactions is valid.
It wasn't a big deal for YOU. You're not the one who has the trauma. Juheon doesn't need to talk abt his family bc it doesn't affect their relationship. Dohu has the a problem with his emotion which affects their relationship. Juheon already ready to talked to him 4yrs ago, he already ready when he came to Dohu crying asking for explanation & ask for him to not to throw him away. Yeah, it may be like a misunderstanding that can be talked through but the one who is not ready & stay silent was Dohu, the one who didn't give any explanation was Dohu bc he didn't/ can't understand his emotions.
If juheon felt that was a betrayal, it was a betrayal. His feelings are valid & his reactions are valid. Wanting to ghosting Dohu is valid. He didn't owe Dohu anything when Dohu himself didn't talked to him abt what he actually felt. Right NOW, juheon already lost his trust & Dohu needs to earn that back but saying straight & talking sarcastically didn't help any of it. Dohu didn't deserves this depression sht FR but this is unfortunately his own consequences. You can say that he loves too late but I'm sure soon juheon will give their relationship another chance after he sees how Dohu's situation actually is (he didn't know, he thought Dohu didn't affected at all by their fall out)
Why did I reply twice.. I thought I accidentally deleted the reply
Can i be real for a sec chat . wtv wrongs dohu has done does not justify this devastating level of emotional damage bro...ive seen yaoi tops get away w downright diabolical shit while poor dohu was thrown in the trenches for being autistic and flawed....free my man fr