im not denying him. i dont think u understood what i meant. hes definetly a victim. im saying that just between him and his sister, its not fair to make her the preparator, cause yes he was a child, but she was too. shed also grown up abused and was dealing with the stress of it all, the fact that she was looking after him at all is insane, cause she had every right to be selfish in that situation, cause shes a child too. im saying the fact that all his angry is directed at her because she turned away from him isnt right because she shouldnt be expected to take all the blame. but obviously theyre both just victims and its tragic that they didn't have a proper adult around.
idk i think the term victim complex usually refers to people who victimize themselves more than necessary. hes just a victim period. yea from an objective pov we can see his anger is misdirected since his sister did nothing wrong but hes quite literally a kid with low self esteem, bullied, and no positive influence in his life. and additionally from his pov his sister doesn’t really notice his cry for help just maintains her distance. obviously not her fault either.
You are aggressive and clearly lack basic psychology knowledge lol, accusing people of painting him as a perpetrator when nobody did. We just recognize he indeed abused his sister mentally as a result from his trauma. She could have literally have killed herself by what he said. She was an abused child too.
nobody said she wasnt a victim i dont think theres a single person who wouldnt say the mc is a victim. hes repeating what he heard the adults say. are you going to just throw around the word abuse for every little thing? when she hit him out of shock at what he said now does that make her an abuser equivalent to her aunt?
responding passive aggressively and then getting upset when people return the energy is a choice
I don’t deny that abusers often repeat the cycle; I think you’re throwing the term around carelessly and if he’s your definition of abuser, then you and OP should be saying the same thing about the sister / mc, but you’re not.
You have to stay consistent with your argument or else it doesn’t make sense. And I’m not trying to be aggressive just disagreeing.
Saying to your teen sister that is just dealing with raising you and also lost her parents " she should have died instead" is verbal abuse. Victims specially teen victims often are verbal abusive to the ones around them cause the extreme frustration and sense of injustice they feel (rightfully so). That is a very common reaction. Like this is base trauma response and yes it is abuse even if a victim is doing it as a reaction. Does not mean we want him to be punished or that we are equalizing him to a literal criminal like his cousin. We are simply recognizing he abused mentally his sister. He actually said sorry and it is a normal reaction victims have, it does not justify, it explains.
I mean that — while she was a teacher I feel like she was scared to cross his boundaries in the beginning of the story. Its ofc not rlly her responsibility since shes just his sister but its more a wishful thinking like damn if the siblings just talked it out sooner. shes doing her best as a sister. i love the mc this is not mc slander. but i try to understand peoples arguments if theyre hating on the brother i feel like personally it goes both ways for the siblings.
She checked on him constantly. She could not force him to open up. He was the one distancing himself (due to trauma) she never took her distance, she tried to reach him several times. They are hating the brother most cause he is annoying annoying character and being annoying is unfortunately the worst crime a character can do in fiction. Besides the poverty is from the teacher and we see her being basically an angel so seeing her brother acting like that towards her will obviously make people annoyed. No one is denying his actions come from trauma tho.
He did, she constantly tried to reach for him working herself since a teen to raise him and he did not even give her a thank you constantly only asking for money and shutting the door at her face everything she arrived. She said to a literal lawyer she was a child abuser, that could have severe repercussions since she was facing child abusing process at school. It is not the same at all.

ep 29. i feel sorry for the brother but holy victim complex. like u have sooo many other people u should be hating to death but u choose the one person in the same boat as u, that might also be the only one that actually cares for u?