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I wouldn't, ever! I'm not even popular enough for that in the first place, but that's a different matter altogether...
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Pork stars sure do love their bacon... ლ(´ڡ`ლ)

Uh, yeah, I mean the kid is tiny. To make him cry like that over tomatoes was pretty shitty. As a mom of three kids I'd NEVER do that. Weak, half-assed parenting, for sure.

If you want to use the word 'blackmailing' then, don't almost all parents use it in some form. "if you don't do x, y will be taken away" "if you do x, you will get y". Maybe my parenting style is a bit stricter then some but i do believe that when a child is young is when you need to teach them core values such as listening to your parents, sometimes you have to do something you don't want to do- i.e studying, eating you veggies. If you wait too long, believing they are too young to understand, you risk to possibility of them becoming a brat that won't listen to you and being a problem child. I hate parents who don't put their child needs first- ie bad parents but in this case i think he was doing what was best for his child. If his prospective lover would have left his son crying that would have obviously proving to him that he could not trust him with his son which he stated was the most important person to him, also he came back with the treat he promised his son for eating the tomato. I believe it is a parent's job to make sure their child become a well adjusted, productive member of society and they won't be doing that job if they give into every whim. I work in child care most of my adult life and it is sad to say most of those kids run their home. I always feel bad for the kids that their parents don't have any structure and lets them do what they want. I believe a child needs structure, unconditional love and support, guidance, open mindedness, acceptance and discipline.

sorry i might have gone off on a tangent here but this is something i feel passionate about.

I do understand (at least I think so), and I'm grateful for your thoughts. What I meant, or better yet - "was bothered about" is using the ultimate fear of every child (being abandoned, left alone, loss of love and safety) for something mundane like a tomato. Yes, vitamines and principles are important. But if you shake this one (1!) foundation a child has, that all is well in life and that your parents (even if there's only 1 left, so part of the worst already happened) will stand by you - you can't replace or repair this loss of trust (surely not with a tomato). Ofc I'm using "If-then-else" as any other parent does. But I'm also telling / showing / proving my kids daily that:
1. I love them
2. I'll always love them. I might staple them to the wall if they lose another coat / key / bike helmet - but I'll love them.
3. I will let them go - if they're going to explore the world, if they want to leave to study in china and when I'm run over by a bus. But I won't leave them for anything. There's nothing they could ever do to make me leave them. Worst case I'll haunt them (lovingly).
4. Because I love them, I told them to never drop anything without trying. (Yes, we had conversations about "do we need to eat the shrub (broccoli)?" but they trust me (return to 1.), so they at least try once - if they don't like it, they don't eat it. As long as I don't feed them sugar 24/7 even pineapples win out.)
5. Because I love them, I'm showing them that every action has a result. You lie to me -> I'm cutting your priveleges until you regained that trust. (action > words) In turn I have to abide by this as well - so I don't lie.

So maybe I worded my thoughts clumsily or maybe now you'll think "privileged mommy, you're not the issue, you're just spoiling your kids" (and you may be right...I guess I AM spoiling them). I just wanted to get this fervent prayer out: don't shock your kid into being left alone in the world, losing his most trusted person, the only support in life - for a fu#*ing tomato! There are other ways to get by avid tomato haters! If you (not you personally @marry, "you" in a general sense) try to make a crusade out of every single moment a kid tries to talk back to you, you'll be exhausted in no time and they won't have a backbone to speak their own mind.
....I really shouldn't start a rant about the actions of fictional characters and all this in the wake of pms. Hormones are scary, seriously scary.

I don't think you spoil your kids (base on your comment). Yes, i believe disciple and structure is important but not more so than the love. I believe the most important thing when it comes to parenting is to make sure your children knows you love them unconditionally, regardless of what they say, do, who they date, life choices,etc- if they don't know it or doubt it than you have not done your job and have failed as a parent. In the case of this manga, i don't think the dad failed to do his job. He seems to put his child first and i truly believe that if they had went to the park by themselves he wouldn't have left his son and i also believe that if he didn't know his prospective lover would have comforted his son he wouldn't have left him with him. As a person who was abandon multiple times as a child and knows their parent don't love them unconditionally the last thing you want is for any child to feel that way. I believe the father thought the same thing and knew his son would be okay.
Also if i in any form believes that he wanted to use abandonment as a form of punishment, for anything, then i would feel exactly how you feel- actually i would hate him and he would go on my list of shitty parents but i think he knew his son would be comforted and not alone base on his statement when he came back.

I find it easier to talk about fictional character, less heart breaking but sadly there are shitty parents in the world.

I can totally relate: Hormones are scary.

AMEN TO THAT ヽ(`Д´)ﾉ

Save Addis please !

That one's save young padawan. She'll get to twist the scenario at lightning speed (and seeing as everyone else is already preparing the props) - just pray for the unfortunate sould at the receiving end of them breaking loose.

Addis gangbang trip: sex dungeon edition XD

Intricacy-lvl: hard (expert)

（/TДT)/

Addis cannot be save anm

I was just about to comment about that but then I saw yours and its betters.

At least we're agreeing ^^ it's another thing altogether if you're living together and storm off in a fit of rage with no firm goal whatsoever apart from "up up and away".
But Yuuki as she's been portrayed so far...there's a big chance she forgot. That it's her home. That she could kick him out if he annoys her so much. This ahead-planning, -working, -thinking universal tool just comes completely undone as soo as she gets emotional ^^